Do I accept Xmas gifts from stbxh? flipflopnomore: I don't know what to do.
My stbxh sent a text twice last night saying he had gifts for me and the kids (his stepkids) and wanted to know if he can come by and drop them off.
To shortly recap my situation, he left and has wishy washed back and forth for 6 months now. A few weeks ago I heard he had a "friend" that he had been talking to and hanging out with. Now, I am hearing they have been talking since August. I know it could be gossip, but I feel so betrayed. Here I have been sitting, hoping and praying for a change in him all the while he had me and a "friend" on the side. He gave me the usual I need time and space and we will see what happens, etc. He denies, of course, that they are more than friends. I would be stupid to believe that. I feel sick that he has turned to another woman even as a friend instead of me.
Anyway, I get this text last night from him. I want to tell him to take it and shove it, but not sure what to do. I want to send a message that after everything he has done and lied about he will not be my buddy. I do still love and miss him despite all he has done and am fighting hard to move on. He does things like this I guess to keep one foot in the door and keep some contact. Btw, I have moved on myself this week and met a great guy and don't want stbxh messing with my head. I am weak and need to not let him destroy my progress.
What do you think I should reply about the gifts? I ignored the first text last night and he resent it this morning?
Re: Do I accept Xmas gifts from stbxh? tripny2k6: If you cant hadle seeing him yet, I would decline. If you're sure that you can...hey free $hit ! Take all that you can get. :-)
Re: Do I accept Xmas gifts from stbxh? betrayedandabandoned: Why not just ignore the text messages?
Delete them and pretend you never received them. That is what I would do. If you really want to protect yourself from more pain he puts on you and try to move on.
Re: Do I accept Xmas gifts from stbxh? Crystal_Blue_024: If you don't want to accept a gift from him, don't... You don't have to feel any guilt over that at all... I think it's commendable that he's staying in his step-kids lives, so accepting the gifts for them would be one thing... I would just say, "I appreciate the gifts for ____ and ____, but I don't feel comfortable accepting a gift from you for me." Simple as that.
Re: Do I accept Xmas gifts from stbxh? vdc_1975: I say accept them. I am planning on giving my stbx a monetary gift in addition to the usual amount I give her for my kids.
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