Re: Do I accept Xmas gifts from stbxh? vdc_1975: [quote author=flipflopnomore link=topic=39054.msg425929#msg425929 date=1166633621">
I wonder about the motives as well.
I don't get it. Is it guilt? [/quote">
Yes
[quote author=flipflopnomore link=topic=39054.msg425929#msg425929 date=1166633621"> Is one gift going to make up for all of the hurt he has caused?[/quote">
No
[quote author=flipflopnomore link=topic=39054.msg425929#msg425929 date=1166633621">
Is that supposed to make me feel better?
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No, but he is feeling guilty and remorseful, he might not want to reconcile, but that doesnt mean he doesnt feel bad about the situation.
I left my wife and at least those are my feelings about my situation which is kind of similar to yours, except I have no OW. But I did in fact leave, and those are the feelings I am having towards her at this point.
GL, God Bless, and have a Merry Christmas.
Re: Do I accept Xmas gifts from stbxh? Feel: [quote author=flipflopnomore link=topic=39054.msg425889#msg425889 date=1166631046">
Thanks for the replies. I turn to you all so much.
I just sent him a text back:
--I will get the gifts for the kids from you, thank you. But with the way things are going now for us it would be too painful to accept a gift from you. Hope you understand.
He does want to stay in my kids lives, but I hope its for the right reasons. He tends to pump them for information. Its sort of a catch 22 though. He has hurt them so much thru all of this as well and I want them to heal. Everytime he makes contact it opens up wounds for them as well.
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I don't know what your situation is but for your childrens sake you know whats best nad as for the gifts, yes I beleive it is a way to keep one foot in the door... If you can handle it then by all means accept them and say thank you, just remember they are material items and that can't fix anything!
Good luck!
Re: Do I accept Xmas gifts from stbxh? PennyLane: I except gifts from anyone.......lol
Seriously tho. My ex and I do exchange. Actually, it's more that we let our daughter pick out stuff for us. We do it for our birthdays too. Our situation is one tho that we get along very well for the most part PLUS, it means a lot to our daughter.
Re: Do I accept Xmas gifts from stbxh? allilm: Yeah, we each took our daughter out to buy a gift for the other.
Re: Do I accept Xmas gifts from stbxh? flipflopnomore: I have always bought stuff from my kids to their dad. But this is a bit different as he is their stepdad. I will accept the gifts for them, but not for me.
He sent a text back:
-That is your decision. I am not happy either.
WTF again? Your not happy? These were your decisions to destroy everything. At least you can be happy. I hate when he acts like this was a mutual thing and I wanted it too.
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