Re: the last letdown.... ? lilbrokenheart: i agree w/ all the above.
i'm not sure if the following will be helpful (it's kind of negative), but i feel like i'm making progress in moving on w/ my life despite not knowing why my husband left me when i think about all the heartless things he's done or not done. i ask myself why i'm crying over such a mean person. knowing why he left won't change the sh**y, subhuman way he treated me, especially once we separated. so it might help you to think of how awful he was to you instead of how you were soulmates. (i am in the process of trying this since i'm in the same situation -- we were soulmates who fell deeply in love and after almost 7 years, he's gone and i have no explanation). maybe the stbx-es were never really our soulmates, because i don't think a soulmate could do what they did to us??
my sister is one of those who just tell me to get over it -- f*** him becuase he's a piece of sh** and she reminds me that no matter how much i obsess over this, he is not thinking of me or our marriage so why should i? my sis is also one of those cowards who will break up with someone by just leaving without any explanation. she says she does it because if she sees that it won't go anywhere then she's not going to waste her time anymore and does not like the confrontation and explanations. some people are just like that and it seems that we all are at the short end of it.
are yall familiar with the serenity prayer? i'm not religious, but it's helped me through a lot -- something about having the serenity to accept the things you can't change, the courage to change those you can change, and the wisdom to know the difference.
