So depressing.... mhiba: God Im so crushed...briefly, my ex told me over a 2 minute phone conversation after our three year relationship that she is still in love with her EX! Since that phone call, after all the special times we had together, I havent heard a single word from her.
Did I ever mean anything to her? How can a person who showed such passion, such love just drop you like that? Im sure she is cuddling with that loser right now without any thought of my heartache. This may be the hardest thing I have ever dealt with, forget work, money, etc. This is something I thought we would have forever.
I feel like such a baby, I haven't cried in years and now I cant stop. i have to fight it, hold my upper lip straight at work just to look professional. And the worst thing about it is, I know she never loved me. How could I have been so fooled???????
Sorry for all the blah blah, just needed to say that to somebody.
Re: So depressing.... JNA: Because some people are just "heartless"...
I dated someone like this and she even tried to come back to me when her new BoyToy failed
BTW my ex returned to her old beau too...
I know how you feel
I felt like I was her "stepping" stone for her to get back to the old guy...
mh wrote: "How could I have been so fooled?"
Because they play us dude...
Some people are players then some are Master Manipulators
Mine was the latter...
So what you do is pick yourself up and dust yourself off
Take it as a lesson learned and move on to greener pastures...
Ones she will "never" see as all she will do is "run" from one to the next
Just like my ex does...
Stay Strong
JNA
Don't feel like a baby...This shit hurts ok...
Re: So depressing.... mhiba: Thanks JNA, your exactly right, I feel like a stepping stone. The truly sad thing about how I feel is; this is the second time I have been left out in the cold. My trust in women is totally ruined. I dont see myself ever letting myself get into a situation that would make me feel like this again.
But I want the love, the family, the kids etc. BUT if I cant trust somebody, how will any of that ever happen? Without trust, the love and respect will never blossum. I dont want to be alone forever, but my heart tells me that I cant go through this ever again. Such a catch 22, huh?
Re: So depressing.... Mr. Incognito: Dont let this destroy your trust in women. The best revenge is to live well. I know that this sucks right now but it will get better. You said that you dont want to live alone and you want a family and the whole nine yards, so my advice is this.
Go take a shower.
EAT something.
Remember that you did your best, but sometimes things are not ment to be regardless of how much we want them to be.
Listen to the song "Aint wasting time no more" by the allman brothers and go on with life.
As far as feeling bad, about feeling bad, and this whole I have not cried since I was a kid thing, well I felt the same way, but the fact is, this is an emotional pain so expect an emotional response. This is not like a broken arm or twisted ankle, so dont feel bad, about crying.
If a person breaks their arm their body sometimes goes into shock. NO shame there right?
The crying is simply your emotions going through shock, no harm no foul.
Re: So depressing.... mhiba: Thanks Incognito...it does help that there are people out there that know what I/we are going through. I want more than anything to get over this awful feeling.
As we were talking about earlier, the trust issue. I was burnt badly years ago by my first love after 4 or so years. So I played the field, studied and worked for years. Then my recent ex, was a friend of mine since I was 3. A girl I knew my whole life, a sudden and unexpected gift. I first was nervous and was then extremely happy, I thought she was placed on this Earth for me. (You know the hollywood love story thing) Once we got together, it seemed if I could trust anybody, it would have been her. I mean why not, our parents pretty much changed our diapers together.
So my problem is, if she would screw me over then what would a stranger do to me? Thats honestly where my fear comes from. When somebody so close can do this to you, then what can I expect?
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