Complete Tailspin DLA: Tried sending my ex a respectful christmas gift - had it delivered 3rd party. No note other than just my name as the one who purchased it.
Got a note in the mail. "I am returning the money to you for the cost of the gift you sent me. I cannot accept this gift. I am asking that you not send me any gifts again in the future."
I got that note, and just haven't been right since. Understatement - I have been barely functional.
I wish I knew why even respectful thoughts of caring were so completely rejected. I wish I knew what I wasn't telling here that would make people say "OHHHHH, I see her point - of course you deserve to be completely exorcised and were in the wrong for even sending it." (This, of course, for those who know my history) I wish I knew why I was being rejected and punsished - by not only silence from her, but also silencing me.
As if I wasn't already gut-ripped during the holidays without her.
Any thoughts?
Re: Complete Tailspin icwtsmnl: it sucks and it hurts, but i guess a break up is a break up, regardless of fault, who ended it, etc. So presents can be considered inappropriate in some cases.
sorry. hugs.
Re: Complete Tailspin DLA: Upon reflection, what this message and her actions tell me about me (filling in the blanks that she is 'too polite' to say directly):
Dear DLA,
Message to you from the people who really knew you like no one else does. You are worthless, to the core. The 'good' that you do is the apple offered to Eve from the snake - it looks beautiful on the outside, but only causes suffering and evil. You are incapable of doing good - it's only worth is to recognize and reject it, and you, out of hand.
I take the time and effort to send you back your 'selfless gift' to inform you that your kindness isn't even worth accepting.
Anything you will ever say or do, no matter what you thought your good intentions were, only causes harm and hurt. Not only are you worthless, anything you say or do is also.
Good riddance to bad trash.
Re: Complete Tailspin icwtsmnl: at least she said "Dear". :)
