Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. nlg5676: Keep your faith and remember that "whatever you put out into the universe comes back to you ten folded"! It's the Law of God. I too was together with the Devil but it has been almost 2 months since I broke up with him and I too saw him with his new FAT, UGLY, girlfriend and I feel Horrible but as good as I was to him, I know that I too will get my good returned 10-Folded. You're not alone trust me.
Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. ebl: sadeyez -
Don't let him tell you what to do. You do what's best for you! From now on, it's all about you. It's not abnormal for you to have feelings for him - obviously, he was your husband. But you cannot act out on those feelings.
You have a plus - and that's that you are still very young with a whole life ahead of you. You can still have a beautiful family who will care a lot about you.
As for what happened to you after your husband left you, believe me, it's a lot more common than you think.
There are sick draconian people in this world who look for "golden" opportunities, and one well-known opportunity for these kinds of people is to look out for vulnerable women who are going though a divorce. Some of these very selfish people will try to take advantage of us one way or another. Believe me how I know.
It's a crappy feeling to be abandoned and then taken advantage of, and what you're feeling - which is to want your husband to protect you is not unnatural.
But what you do have to do is pick yourself up - one foot at a time in front of the other and push forward. You will be able to get through this. Keep posting here - you can do it!
Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. SadEyez: Everytime I think of the two of them 2gether i feel nauseated. How can he just not care? Did he ever love me or was it just an act? How can he not feel guilty?
Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. chaotic: This may not make you feel any better, but this may just be his MO. The girl he is with right now will likely be sitting in your same shoes a couple months, or years from now when he pulls the same stunt.
Keep in mind that you are not the cause of this. Many times, there is something lacking in the person that causes them to act the way they do. Lack of morals, lack of dignity, whatever, its not your fault.
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Everytime I think of the two of them 2gether i feel nauseated. How can he just not care? Did he ever love me or was it just an act? How can he not feel guilty?
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Don't worry - me too. My husband of 10 years left me for a woman who's 10 years older than I am. She has her kids, and I have none. So my husband would rather be with her and her 8 and 9 year old boys than to start a new family with me.
Just by my example, that should show you that the other woman has nothing better than you do. You will probably start questioning yourself, but don't bother short circuiting your brain for answers. People are different in so many ways, and we can't even compare with each other.
This has nothing to do with you - it all has to do with him. People like our husbands are missing something within themselves. If they ever want to reconcile, they must seek some type of therapy. (not that this will make you feel any better, believe me, 110% of the time is has to do with them). There is simply no excuse for an affair.
As for them feeling guilty, well I don't know. My personal experience is that I find that my stbx husband has started to believe even his own lies. It's like they are in a trance and very addicted to that new love. They tell themsleves whatever it is to make themselves feel less guilt. And the mind- well its a powerfool tool. :-\
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