Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. Batman: Excuse me, but you need this:
SNAP OUT OF IT!!!!!!!!
I know it sucks! But you can't let that sorry son of a b1tch get to you anymore.
You keep asking, "How do I hate him?"
The answer to that is, "You don't."
Don't give that a$$hat the satisfaction of hating him. He obviously doesn't even deserve your attention.
The things you described you're going through (losing weight, debts, etc.) just prove that you are HATING YOURSELF.
You put up a big front like you're a supreme victim, but if you think about it, you are being REALLY selfish in all this. Have you really lost all your hair? Is your health really suffering so much that you're likely to have a stroke?
Think about the people who love you who will be DEVESTATED if you die because you destroying yourself!!!
SNAP OUT OF IT.
You're a good person, and you have to take care of yourself. If you can't take care of yourself for YOU, then take care of yourself for the people who love you ... including all the people who've responded to your posts on this board ...
Here's my best suggestions:
1) Get professional help. Find a doctor to help your emotions. You can find that for free.
2) If you can't afford a place to live, move in with your parents.
3) If you can't move in with your parents, look into women's shelters in your area that might help for free.
4) Avoid all contact with that evil pr1ck.
5) File for divorce when you can, keeping a record of all the money he owes you for back rent on that lease. Oh, if his name is on it, he'll have to pay it in court!
6) Focus on getting BETTER for the sake of everyone around you. And yourself.
You WILL get through this! You need to do a complete turn around, though, and wake up from this vile nightmare that you're putting yourself through.
I was right where you are at the beginning of my divorce. It was hell, but I made it, and continue to.
Here's a quote that I pinned to my wall:
"If you're going through hell, keep going." - Winston Churchill
Much love,
Batman
Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. smokin: first off, chaotic is da man. he ALWAYS steps up to the plate and is suberb at giving advice and help, so i salute you dude.. great advice as always..........
2nd off, before the batman beatings begin, listen to what he is saying. HE is CORRECT. WE and i stress WE NEED to snap out of it, the ones who are STILL asking WHY.. i am in the same boat, feeling all bad, and unwanted and shit. its time to move on from the questions about why, how, what happened to put us in this boat...........
some people just dont know what they have. some people, think that the grass is greener, and some people think that they can easily hurt the other by saying things about them, or degrading them, or what so. and yes they can, but you have to remember, that we ARE who we ARE, and most of us didnt grow to be unloveable overnight, and that we all have problems that will surface in any relationship....
sadeyez, any man who BEATS, HITS, SLAPS, DEGRADES, AND BELITTLES a woman, should get no sympathy, and should be given NO SECOND THOUGHTS. you are a woman, and a woman deserves a man, who will treat her with respect, and love and WANT AND CHERISH to be with her. that man is out there, and he has opened that door for you to find that man. please make sure to respect yourself cause casual sex ends up hurting yourself further, and will wreak havoc on your emotions afterwards.........
as batman said, repeat things. repeat this "I DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE A LADY"... and accept nothing less................
gtm
