Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. SadEyez: thank u chaotic. Its just really hard-- I pray all the time for this just to be over.
he said he felt i was trying to control him because when he was out of work & wanted to get a job at my temp agency , i told him he needed as resume'. He ASKED me to type him one - and I did. how was i trying to control him by helping him look 4 work?
he got a job w/my dad & got mad at me because I overslept to wake him up 4 work-- want that his responsibility?
what did i do wrong?-- I dont see what he's seeing i guess. I asked him to look me in the eye and name 1 wrong thing i did to hurt him or our marriage-- he couldn't his eyes looked like they were welling up-- I asked him not 2 be upset because I cant bear to see him cry & he gets all angry & says "u cant upset me not even 1 percent"
how can i stop caring. Im willing to try anything. How do i hate him?
Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. chaotic: Once again, these are just excuses that he is giving you to make himself feel better.
Do not think about what was. Do not concentrate on what could have been.
Keep your mind on the hurtful things he has done and is doing. Keep in mind the person he has become. You do not want to be dragged down into his world.
Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. SadEyez: thank u. you're right i guess I'll try that now but i need alot of help working on that. I don't know how I'd be making it through today at work if it wasnt for your help. I appreciate it more than u know.
Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. asoldierssister: I wish there was one simple thing I could tell you that would help you in some remote way. But there isn't. All I can say is how terribly sorry I am that you were stuck with this man for any amount of time and I'm glad that you are moving on with your life no matter how hard it is. You deserve better sweetie. No matter your past, you deserve better than someone demeaning you, hurting you, etc. I have also been raped and I know how it feels to go through those emotions. Wanting someone to be there, especially someone that you have invested yourself in. But sometimes unhealthy people become like an addiction to us. You cannot make him love you no matter how much you want him to or love him. The only thing you can do is build yourself up and keep pushing foward. He isn't healthy for you. And you WILL be okay. You will survive this.
Hugs!
Crystal
Re: Please read. I have no place else to go. Cherry: I must agree with Chaotic. You have to stand your ground. Don't let him take advantage of you anymore. Make sure you are protected while you get your feet back under you.
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