A fake update frankbj: For those of you who follow my story...here is sort of an update.
Today mark the 17th day we had no contact, and my friend read her post that she added a new entry today saying things like 'it had been a month, and now she is all clear about what she wants and even took a picture of herself at this moment of her 'clear mind'....I didn't visit the site, but my friend read it over the phone to me....we both are not really clear what she meant, but sounded like
1) she made up her mind on something
2) this is a new year and she would like to have a new start on things
then this friend who really looking out for my interest(our only common friend and the one who handed the gifts to her on my behalf on X'mas) made an agreement with her that she should tell her her decision over this relationship after she made up her mind. And if the answer is YES, then everyone is happy, but if the answer is NO, then she should stay away from me.....so this friend called her around dinner time tonight and she answered and said she was about to call her anyway, but since she is out there having dinner with a friend she couldn't talk and will return the call later tonight...my friend waited and waited until close to midnight now, and she never called.....so I finally let my friend know I already got the answer, and she could cancelled the request of her calling...which she did and end of story.
I think the 17 days of slient was probably too much for her and she felt abandoned....I am not sure what to do with this information now (she doesn't know I know about the whole blog thing, in fact she has no idea what kind of a life I am having now), but OUCH~~~~~~~ :'( :'( :'(
Re: A fake update frankbj: In fear that my friend was upset with her, she called her but my friend didn't answer...so she called me.
We talked for a while for the first time in what seems like ages.
She said she finally decided that her heart will not allow her to let out with the ex , although she repeatly saying that they couldn't be together at all. She also said she has no idea why she couldn't get go with him. Therefore, in order to be responsible to our relationship, she decided to back off, since she could not see me being sad over this problem/issue/weakness of hers.
She also said that if it is not this ex issue, she knows firmly in her heart that I am the one she wishes to marry to and she could get the happiness she always been wishing for, etc.
so any comments?
Re: A fake update chaotic: Frank, I tried to understand what is going on, but to be honest, I am completely lost. Try writing a synopsis of your post. I am not trying to be an a$$, I just cant understand the story you posted. Perhaps its just me, but it doesnt seem to tell what is going on.
From what I can tell, your ex has a blog that she posted some decision had been made. Your mutual friend tried to get an answer but did not. You figured something out or got an answer from your ex, but I cant figure out what it was. Then you talked and she is still hung up on her ex, but wants you.
Is that the story? Did I understand correctly? I want to make sure I understand before giving you any advice.
Re: A fake update asoldierssister: So she is dating or trying to date someone else and knows that if she can't do that that you are the one she wants to marry? Im confused with why a woman would need to date someone else to know that? I honestly think you need to just break off communication with her and move on with your life. Sounds like as soon as you do that she'll be back wanting you back. Shes stringing you along as the "incase" guy. You deserve better than that.
Re: A fake update frankbj: [quote author=chaotic link=topic=39522.msg432373#msg432373 date=1167845191">
Frank, I tried to understand what is going on, but to be honest, I am completely lost. Try writing a synopsis of your post. I am not trying to be an a$$, I just cant understand the story you posted. Perhaps its just me, but it doesnt seem to tell what is going on.
From what I can tell, your ex has a blog that she posted some decision had been made. Your mutual friend tried to get an answer but did not. You figured something out or got an answer from your ex, but I cant figure out what it was. Then you talked and she is still hung up on her ex, but wants you.
Is that the story? Did I understand correctly? I want to make sure I understand before giving you any advice.
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Well, I must admit it is a very complex situation, since things by her doesn't add up. In short, it should be like this
1) She is still hang up on a man, but according to her, they couldn't develop any serious relationship together (that I agree)
2) She thinks that I am great for her, and if without this 'hung up' she is having, she would love to be with me in a heatbeat (haha, funny...see how things doesn't add up now?)
3) She didn't cheat on me (but cannot/don't bother create counter-evidence for that)
4) Wish that I would be happy and not to wait around for her
Then there are a bunch of other things that I later found doesn't really add up nither. I don't think she had this 'nice call' with me was for my benefit, but more so than she would like to offically get rid of me in her mind. For a person that lies about pretty much everything, she is really a bad liar.
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