Letting go of someone you really Love nlg5676: Hello Folks:
I am a 34 year old career, independent women with 3 kids, 18, 13, & 9. I had been dating a younger BOY who has absolutely nothing to offer me. I knew this from the beginning of our relationship and I accepted him this way. We feel in Love after a few months and we decided to moved in together. Being that I was fresh out of a divorce, I wasn't really sure if I wanted to settle down again quit yet but I knew that I really enjoyed his company and that I was starting to fall hard for him. He does things that I don't approve of but I knew he was young and that I couldn't change the way he was.........Yet. Well to make a long story short, I played games for about a year, went through two break-ups before I realized how much I had grown to really love him. By this time, he was tired of my games and started to mess with my emotions and feelings. He admited to me on several occasions that he wanted to pay me back for the way I had treated him at the begining of our relationship. But what he failed to admit to himself was that if he hadn't been staying out all night with my family and doing the things he was doing, maybe I would have been a different person. Well we kept trying because we do love each other and enjoy our time together. About almost two months ago and several break-ups in between, he met a younger girl who, like him, enjoys doing the same curriculum. When again we tried to work things out, he admitted to me that he had had sex with her but that it didn't work out like that so they would remain JUST friends. We continued seeing each other and he would stay with me everynight like nothing. He assured me that she was just a friend and that her and I didn't even compare AT ALL! He even refers to her as a hood rat. Did I mention that he met her on the street walking home from a bar when according to him, HER FRIENDS were tripping so she asked them to drop her off! Well He always told me that once he reached the age of 25, which is this year, we would get married. After only a week of being together again, one day I was talking to him on the phone making plans to pick him up so he could come over, I reminded him of the promise he made me. He laughed and said "what the hell makes you think your the one I want to marry! I couldn't believe what he was saying considering that just 1 1/2 months before he was still telling me he wanted to get married. I broke it off completly and changed all my phone numbers. He hasn't attempted to contact me since but has told my nephew (his party buddy) that he really loves me a lot. He also told them to please not mention my name because it really, really hurts him. On new years eve, I received a call from my Ex-husband, who is a cop, telling me that he was being arrested for position of an illegal weapon in a bar. Stupid me, there I go to try and play Superwomen and save the day. Well to my astonishment, when I got there he was alread gone but his New Hood Rat girlfriend was still there making a big scene, throwing herself on the floor yelling that he was not to blame. Well he's right she don't compare to me at all in any way, shape or form. Not in appearance or in life style. WOW what a BIG difference and how degrading. In the past I had told him he had some pretty big shoes to fill considering that he Ex-Wife, yes he's already been married, is also a career women. Since then I have found out that they have been seeing each other since June or July of 06. He even bought her a bracelet for Christmas. He still insist that she is not his girlfrined and that she is just a friend. I don't get it! I have the world to offer him, I did so much for him, physically, mentally, and emotionally and he pays me back with this! How could he betray me and further more, how could he have been staying with me and yet be with her! Well to say the least, I made a promise to myself and my kids that I would have nothing to do with him ever. My question to you all is, will he ever regret what he has done to me? Will he ever realize what he has lost? These past 2 months have been so hard on me and I feel so stupid for believing his lies.
Re: Letting go of someone you really Love mhiba: Sorry to hear of your situation. Your question was, will he ever regret? Of course he will, everybody goes through it, if they want to admit it or not. Some more than others, but everybody will find themselves alone with only their thoughts. We always review/relive our past.
Also, seems to me that taking him back after he cheated on you the first time, was a risky decision. I think you and your kids deserve more, and trust me it is out there. Keep hope...
Re: Letting go of someone you really Love nlg5676: Thank you so much, you make a lot of sense. I'm a firm beliver of "whatever you put out into the universe, comes back to you 10-folded.
Thanks :)
