Re: When will I come out of this hell??????? superwife: Sassy, listen to these wise girls :D. I know I am repeating their words, but it does take time, and the time is different for everyone. Look back at some our our old posts. You will see thet we were all there in the beginning. I swear, it does get better. You will find someone who treats you the way you seserve to be treated. In the meantime, take this time to find yourself. Focus on building relationships with friends, male or female. Platonic make friends are very imprtant, to make you realize that not all guys are like your ex. Build friendships here, with people who can relate to you and understand what you are going through. Focus on building a new life with your son, and showing him that life goes on. Focus on doing things you never though you'd do. If it weren't for my separation, I would have never met all of you guys, and I never would have spent a weekend in Vermont with a bunch of drunken divorcees :D :D :D. In the past 21 months, I have learned so much about myself and grown so much, and met some really cool people along the way (here and IRL).
Do you work? If not, you seriously may want to consider building a career. I know money is tight, but you can get a loan and go back to school. Suck it up financially if you have to. It'll be worth it in the end. Focus on you and your son, and making your lives better, and don't wait for someone to depend on. This is very important as a young single mom. You can do it. At times it is not easy for me (money is still tight, but it's all mine!!), but it's better than it was a year ago.
Hang in ther girl!!! ;)
When will I come out of this hell??????? eft: I have been divorced for a little over a year from a man who was verbally and mentally abusive. When I left, I left with my child, my car and the clothes on my back. Since then, he has still tried to control every aspect of my life. recently, he got married and didn't even tell me. All I wanted to know was if my son had a new stepmother and two new stepbrothers. He would not tell me. I found it out through public records at the courthouse. I have no money, and scrape daily to make ends meet. I have a very keen since of humor which seems to be dwindling. I had a zest for life that had no bounds. Now, romance seems light years away......like it will never happen. Thank God I have my son and the blessings he gives me daily.
Re: When will I come out of this hell??????? PennyLane: Your being to hard on yourself and punishing yourself like he did you. I have no doubt you'll meet plenty of people who will see the sence of humor and zest of life that you have. GIve it time.
Thank God you are away from this man. He'll do the same thing to the new wife. Be greatful you are free from him and his nasty abuse.
I'm taking it that he doesn't see your son. How old is your son? Does the father pay child support?
Re: When will I come out of this hell??????? AngelBaby: Sassy...
You will come out of the darkness at some point. It takes time, and you will find the one that you were meant to be with. I firmly believe this. I didn't think I would ever come out of it, especially after my last break up, and then out of nowhere, J came into my life, and I've never been happier. It may seem like things are taking their sweet time, but things happen when and how they do for a reason.
You will find your forever, and you will never be happier!
Many Hugs~
~AB
Re: When will I come out of this hell??????? ebl: I agree - that's the first thing that came to mind - this guy will definitely abuse his new wife. You really should thank God that you are away from this nut case.
And I agree with the rest of the people here - you have plenty of opportunities to find a man who'll give you the respect you need. Based on your picture, you are still young and good looking.
