Re: How do you know? lghawaiian: w00t! Hypothetical high-five Blu!...
Nice!
Re: How do you know? Spike: Now C, I said it wasn't the right time for the two of you. He lied coming out of the gate, C. Thats not good, at all. The right guy will come along, and you will not even know it until you're knee deep in it. Patience, C, patience.
Re: How do you know? superwife: [quote author=flipflopnomore link=topic=39546.msg432920#msg432920 date=1167886936">
I worry about that as well (See other posts about that).
I worry about sticking my heart out there to get crushed again. So I am going slow.
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(the chick and flip chronicles)
But seriously tiff, no one can tell you when you are ready. your friends reply, to me, was a typical resposnse from a well-meaning friend who doesn't know what to say. And because it didn't work out, someone has to be quick to tell you that you weren't ready. Why couldn't it just be that the guy was a dick? >:( Just because it didn't work out, doesn't mean you weren't ready.
I know it sounds so cliche, but it happened for me when I wasn't expecting it. Yes, I was looking, but I had stopped looking for a boyfriend. I spent a few months trying on a few pairs of shoes, and said to myself "this is the last pair I'm trying on, then I'll go barefoot for a while". I reached the point where I was comfortable being barefoot (or at least wearing a sandal, one that I can easily take on and off :D). I had decided that if by the time the fall semester started up, I would go on hiatus, b/c I wouldn't have the time to put itnot this whole dating game. Well, he e-mailed me the first week of school, I 'gave him a shot', did not have high expectations, and went on what I thought was going to be 'just another date'. Well, that was almost 4 months ago :).
And like flip, I am a bit scared as well (getting better each day). I think I will always be, to an extent. But not scared enough to stay home and not try. i think a lot of people who are not ready are just petrified. And that's okay. My theory is, get back into that shoestore!! (allright, i've worn out the shoe analogy!!!! :D).
Re: How do you know? flipflopnomore: The shoe thing is great.
I had a funny conversation with the "new guy" last night. We were talking about past relationships and how his exwife cheated on him. This was almost 10 years ago now. I asked him if it made him not trust women. He said honestly at first it did but someone said that not every woman is like his ex and has more of an open outlook. I think he made that statement for my benefit as well. He knows I am scared.
I would say don't go looking, just let it happen.
Re: How do you know? cdoulatiff: [quote author=Spike link=topic=39546.msg432958#msg432958 date=1167913195">
Now C, I said it wasn't the right time for the two of you. He lied coming out of the gate, C. Thats not good, at all. The right guy will come along, and you will not even know it until you're knee deep in it. Patience, C, patience.
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OOPs...My fault Spike....I misunderstood. I guess I'm just frustrated bc right off the bat I had a good feeling about him...what does that say about my abilities???? :'(
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