Nephews dad committed Suicide when he was 9 yrs~7 yrs later Best Friend Commits! Macaw_Lover: I know that a while ago I had posted on here troubles my family is dealing with such as my 3 nephews dealing with there dads suicide at a very young age and also there mom being a big-time alcoholic.
So here goes again to refresh my Nephew is one of 3 brothers whose dad shot himself in the head 7 years ago. My nephew is now 16 years old and just last night one of his best friends shot himself in the head with my nephew’s gun! In case anyone is wondering my nephew hunts with his "kind of step dad" we will call him.
His best friends dad told my nephew that his son had been looking for shells before for there gun and was just trying to reassure him that it wasn't his fault, his son would have found a way no matter if my nephew didn't borrow a gun from him.
My nephews step dad took him to his friends house and fortunately his step dad made him stay in the truck as when walking around the house his step dad saw spattered blood and a bullet hole through his friends window.
I haven't talked to my nephew yet, as I know he will call me when he is ready. My mom said that he stayed home from school as did many of his friends, and there were about 15 kids over there with my nephew.
I know that all of my nephew’s friends who were to friends with this 16 yr old kid are probably devastated also, but honestly I am truly scared for my nephew. My sister being the drunk though, I just know is going to spiral from this because her sons are getting older and have questions pertaining to there own dad’s death and she hasn't dealt with it herself.
My mom said she has a feeling he is going to want me to go to the funeral to be his rock. He often turns to me for help/guidance. How is he going to get through this? Most peo9ple don't have to endure suicide once in there life let alone twice at such a young age none the less!
I know some might say is that life throws only to us what we can handle, but really how can anyone handle this! I myself am an adult and it was beyond difficult for ME to get over my brother in laws death!
Please words to help him by would be appreciated. Thank You.
Re: Nephews dad committed Suicide when he was 9 yrs~7 yrs later Best Friend Commits! cdoulatiff: wow...what a heavy burden for a 16 year old. my thoughts and prayers to him and your family!
Re: Nephews dad committed Suicide when he was 9 yrs~7 yrs later Best Friend Commits! mhiba: Sorry to hear of such a difficult situation.
Just remind him everyday, everytime you see him, everytime you think of him...that HE IS LOVED! We at ojar know how just being loved and thought of means more than life itself. I like to think its the same think, love is life.
Tell him all the time, tell him all the time! It will be easier to deal with such loss when he knows people care.
Good luck, my prayers are with you and your family.
Re: Nephews dad committed Suicide when he was 9 yrs~7 yrs later Best Friend Commits! Macaw_Lover: Well the funeral was Sat. My nephew was a pallbearer and didn't even know what one was! Sat. night then I was babysitting 40 drunk teenagers partying in there friends honor. My nephews parents knew, considering well none of them were driving and they were all out in the pull-barn. Needless to say they knew that they were going to "Party" for there friend regardless. That was the night of the Funeral.
Well Monday was my nephews first day back to school after just under a week of this happening. A kid came up to my nephew and said "I'm glad Jake's dead!” Tyler well.....punched him! You know what I would have to! How can you be SO heartless to say such a thing!
Well the principal said because of the no-tolerance rule he had to be suspended, however he went into the computer and made it look like my nephew would be there the whole week. He also sent out an email to the teachers saying, this week and the months to follow please refrain from giving him homework that isn't necessary". The school knows that this was his best friend and that his dad to died in this manner so they are really trying to help him as best they can through this. So people have been with my nephew all this week, because he just shouldn't be alone right now.
All the guns were removed from the House on Sat. as well and brought to one of there friends that doesn't have children.
So that is an update, but seriously guys I am extremely afraid for my nephew.....his life even. I have a hard time believing he would ever harm himself, but he has just been through SO much you just don't know......
Re: Nephews dad committed Suicide when he was 9 yrs~7 yrs later Best Friend Comm ambrose195: maybe some counseling wouldn't be a bad idea.....they can bring out the deep down feelings to the surface and help him deal with it.....wow....i'm sorry for what you guys are going through....good luck....
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