And I thought I needed to let go... elf624: Ok, I don't get it. Please let me know if you have any insight on this. I had to text my stbxh this morning about a bill issue. After it was resolved, he sends me a text message asking if I've have anyone at the house with me. I told him no (which is true) and he said that wasn't what he heard. I asked who said that and he said it didn't matter. He then asked me again if I had found someone to be happy with yet (it's only been 3 weeks - I don't think so.) I just told him New Year's day the answer to that question and told him to leave me alone. He then tells me that he won't believe what anyone else says until he asks me. I told him not to ask that it was none of his business and it didn't matter. He tells me he only wants the best for me. Whatever! What does this mean? Is he really just trying to be nice, trying to find out if I've moved on, or not letting go himself. Help! He's driving me crazy! He left me. I told him I'm over him. He has a new girlfriend. What's going on?
Re: And I thought I needed to let go... MEP2006: He's jealous. He wants to be happy in his new life, but wants you to sit at home and be miserable. Drama junkie.
Your best response is the one you've already given: None. Of. Your. Business.
Good girl. Hugs.
Re: And I thought I needed to let go... flipflopnomore: I lived this nightmare for over 6 months.
Its he wants you sitting there as Plan B. By making comments and asking questions about what you have been doing it plants a seed of doubt in you. Maybe he is coming back? Maybe he cares.....
Remember actions scream louder than words.
He may feel relief of some of the guilt if you move on, but more than likely he wants to keep you right where you are in case his other life doesn't pan out.
Re: And I thought I needed to let go... elf624: Unfortunately for him, I will never wait around and will never take him back. Trust is a huge thing for me. I could never forgive him for what he did and I could never trust him again. I miss having someone in my life, but not necessarily him. He was an everyday chore that I'm glad I don't have to take care of anymore. I'm half tempted to tell him I found someone else so he'll leave me alone, but I'm not that good at lying.
Re: And I thought I needed to let go... Phoenix5822: My stbx did the same thing...actually ENCOURAGING me to go out and "find happiness". Ok, first off, I don't need to find a &^%$ to be happy, thanks anyway. Second, when he THOUGHT I was actually going on my first date, he turned into a total jerk and asked me "where the fk do you think you're going?" (he was there to pick up our daughter). I told him it was none of his business so he proceeded to call 4-5 times in the 3 hours I was gone. ::) Double standard indeed....he can go live with his girlfriend, and say that he wants me to move on (to ease his own conscience), but then when he even THINKS I am starting to, he freaks out.
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