How do I do this??? JadedButtafly: I'm feeling more lost than I have in the last year. I thought that i made a solid decision to move on in my life without him, and I thought he understood it. But he keeps emailing me and calling, and has put me on his messenger. I told him I'd like to live by the no contact rule, except where it concerns our children and our finances. He said "how can we no contact each other?" I thought I was pretty clear on what I said. I thought my heart was content on what needed to be done when he came up here for xmas... and I stood by what I had to do. But he was all in my face with I love yous and I miss you etc..... I know I love this man, but I also know it is not like it use to be. I can not forget the pain he's put the kids and I through in the last year, I may be able to forgive it somehow, but I feel we are beyond repair. He on the other hand I dont think he wants to admit defeat. How do I go about this? He's making me feel worse by the day and my heart and head is feeling like a ping pong ball. I feel so alone and feel like I can't really make any decisions of my own... why are things this way? Is it not meant for me to have a life of my own? :'(
Re: How do I do this??? alonewith2: They never understand the no contact rule at first. It's up to you to show him how it works. Don't respond to any questions, comments, emails, IMs, phone calls, voice mails that have NOTHING to do with the children or your finances. If you keep responding, he'll keep contacting you. ;)
Re: How do I do this??? Freckles: I don't know what it would be like to see my ExWife agan.
I have not seen her since the BIG Blowup.(Except at court)
(A few calls 2 or 3 her saying * Can I come back - she left - she was hostile)
If I ever see her agan in my life it will be the most aful/worst
because I still Love Her, But SHE Loves Beer/Pot/Hostility a LOT more than the little bit she loves me.
:(
Re: How do I do this??? Cherry: Gosh, reading your post reminded me how bad it felt back then. I guess that is good right?? Means that it truly doesn't last forever. When I was going thru it though it did feel that way. Now that I look back though Im thinking dang, what was the deal??
