Re: Same Story - but with a Little Twist flipflopnomore: Your not married correct????
RUN LIKE HELL!!!
It will only get worse. If he has a sex addiction it will be something that he will fight forever. He will constantly have to be going to meetings and you will constantly have to forgive him everytime he slips. So not worth it.
Re: Same Story - but with a Little Twist Temporary: Something tells me that he didn't leave his phone on by accident.
Re: Same Story - but with a Little Twist Cherry: Addictions of any kind are difficult to deal with. And while my gut screams for you to run, my head and heart remember how much I wanted to help my ex. He was my life, the father of my children. I stuck by him thru a lot of crap and gave it everything. Thing is hun, you cannot change anyone. They have to do it themselves. 8 and a half years later I look back and am so sad at what I see. And the knowledge that 2 kids suffer for my stupidity and weakness really breaks my heart. (not condeming you, that is how I see it from my POV)
[quote"> you choose to believe you can fix them and things will be okay. But the truth is, we are both broken.
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You aren't going to be able to do anything really. This has to come from inside him. But you can take care of you. Deal with your hurts and issues from this. Put yourself in a good place and there is always the chance that he will do the same.
I know in my situation it did not. It spiraled completely out of control until it destroyed us both. But in my heart I know and belive in the ability for people to change and grow. I know because I have done so over the last 4 years since my ex.
Hang in there and let us know what we can do.
Re: Same Story - but with a Little Twist BooBoo: frankbj:
He has been a SA since he was in his late teens, early 20's. At that time he didn't know what was "wrong" with him. He was fortunate to find a support group once he relocated from his home state.
Honestly, I never noticed anything out of the ordinary. He was always there, supportive, attentive -- quite frankly, a pretty darn good mate. It has been the last 2 years that things have changed. By "changed" I mean that he started working late, but not often enough to make me suspect anything. His career choice is notorious for working people to the bone.
He has been loving and supportive of me and my decisions in every aspect.
In retrospect I don't think he has been going to as many meetings as he used to. Another two year milestone if you will is that I left my job. And we moved in together about a year ago.
I'm sorry if I seem so dense about what might be obvious to others. Digesting all of this is difficult and I'm just a wreck.
Leaf: I wish I had the balls (or the female equivalent) at this point. I also depend upon him financially.
