Re: Lonely night Cheri123: Okay forgive me...but where are you all? Why can't I find men like you. After two years of divorce...I still get lonely nights too. The SO I've been dating is not really a talker or a night person...so I find myself thinking about the good times that the ex and I had when we would stay up and talk for hours about any and everything and nothing in particular. Although he was a Dr. Heckle and Mr. Hyde type of person...I still miss his good humor and his conversation.
I don't miss the fights we had...but sometimes I just miss the good parts of him. I wish I could clone him and then disect the bad parts of him. The mean abusive part of him could be thrown away in the trash and the nice responsible loving guy that he could be would stay in tact. But...I guess time heals all wounds and heart breaks. It just takes time. For me....I think it will take finding a sweet guy who is the type that doesn't mind writing his feelings in a little blue box...let's me know that he has a heart. Zip...you'll find a woman who will love you because she'll appreciate all of your good qualities and soon this lonely night will be just a memory.
Re: Lonely night ohsoserial: I feel you. It's been a little over a week since my breakup, and I'm still sitting in our house, staring at all our things, wondering why she decided she didn't want to be with me anymore. I'm good looking, successful, kind-hearted and I genuinely love her.
What's worse? Whenever she comes over to get something, she tells me she loves me. Then she leaves. That's like being stabbed in the chest.
I can only hope it gets better. That's what everyone says. If it didn't, everyone would be running around, bummed out and messed up all the time.
I guess I have to bow to the evidence.
Re: Lonely night photo_betty: [color=maroon"> Zip, I feel you on the lonely nights. Sometimes it's almost harder if there's no blowout, no major breakdown or betrayal of the relationship, sometimes people just aren't meant to be together, cliched as it is. But I know what it feels like to miss that person; I, too, am coming out of a relationship of 4 years and I know *exactly* how it feels to automatically reach to call them at the end of the day and then realize you can't. I've come to tell myself that I am just caught in the *habit* of calling him and that I don't actually need him or that contact with him - because, like you said with your relationship going bad a few months back, it wasn't happy, quality contact anyway. And you know, habits can be broken, it just takes time.
But this is a great place to write on those nights when you are feeling lonely - you've got all of us! I know I'm here when I don't know what else to do with myself at night...
P.S. - I don't think you sound boring at all, in fact, you sound pretty great and if she didn't feel that way, it's clearly her loss. ;)[/color">
Re: Lonely night Zipsfb: Thanks everyone for the words. I still have problems at night, but right now it is day. I am trying not to think about things that remind me of her but also trying to take things that do remind me of her and rethink them so she is out of the picture.
I won't mind thinking about her maybe years from now, but right now I'd rather not have much of a recollection of her and I....
Re: Lonely night ace1234: hey zip,
I seem to be pretty much the same person you describe yourself as.
I wonder often the same questions you brought up. Will I be alone forever, why didn't my relationships with ex girlfriends work out, and finally why didn't my marriage work? I don't know if it is a problem with us. I am starting to think that alot of the women we pick are somewhat 'damaged' goods. I know I did alot of the things right that I was supposed to but it still didn't work out. I am going to stop blaming myself.
Atleast you've got a wii! That looks awesome!
The way my mom explained it to me is that I am lucky, I get a second chance at happiness. I guess that's true.
l8r
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