The War Zone: Divorce Freckles: I was reading a thread where someone was happy they were winning in the Divorce War.
And they were Happy.
I myself Won the Divorce War but still lost the Marrage.
I did not have Kids with my Ex(She had 1 before Marrage)
I think the Kids are the ones who Pay for the Selfishness/Evil done by 1 or both or the other of thier parents.
It is amazing how many post that,* Oh the Kids will get over it
That is the Bigest Lie I have ever seen in my life.
They will NEVER Get over it. That is the Truth.
Divorce if You Win You Lose. If you Lose You Lose.
Divorce is [color=red"> Evil[/color">
Divorce is Death of Marrage.
There is no Joy / Happy in Divorce .
Only Pain
Re: The War Zone: Divorce big_daddy: This may well be my favorite post you have ever made Freckles. Its been said before but it can never be said too many times. Nobody wins, everybody loses. But it is always a lesson to be learned, better yourself as a result of it.
Now I'm going to go sit in amazement at the fact that I understood and agreed with Freckles. :o
Re: The War Zone: Divorce JimB: BS. Garbage. A load of crap.
My ability to experience joy in this life has come about as an indirect result of my divorce. The more time elapses since my divorce, the more I come to understand that joy would have been inaccessible while married to my ex.
So I won, and I won, and I won.
And kids are very resilient - I would be willing to bet there are kids out there whose life experience is affected in a profoundly positive way as a result of their parents' divorce. Yes, divorce sucks, but the aftermath can become a very good thing.
Bottom line: there is no joy without pain. It's a lesson I had to learn as an adult because I didn't learn it as a kid. So I naturally think any kid who can learn it as a kid (when you are more resilient) has an advantage.
Re: The War Zone: Divorce vdc_1975: [quote author=JimB link=topic=39938.msg439875#msg439875 date=1168743347">
BS. Garbage. A load of crap.
My ability to experience joy in this life has come about as an indirect result of my divorce. The more time elapses since my divorce, the more I come to understand that joy would have been inaccessible while married to my ex.
So I won, and I won, and I won.
And kids are very resilient - I would be willing to bet there are kids out there whose life experience is affected in a profoundly positive way as a result of their parents' divorce. Yes, divorce sucks, but the aftermath can become a very good thing.
Bottom line: there is no joy without pain. It's a lesson I had to learn as an adult because I didn't learn it as a kid. So I naturally think any kid who can learn it as a kid (when you are more resilient) has an advantage.
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Im with Jim on this one.
I agree that during the divorce no one is "winning" but more often times than not the future of both spouses ends up better afterwards IMO.
