Re: Dating and percentages hudson: [quote author=movinon link=topic=40015.msg440469#msg440469 date=1168836694">
Makes me wonder how couples ever find each other.
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Personally I believe that when the time is right, when a person is truly ready, they will meet the one.
Re: Dating and percentages Phyxius: [quote author=YellowJacket"> I was informed this weekend that I will never have another "permanent" partner because of what I'm expecting. I'd heard that a few times when I was younger and obviously it was false because I have been married.[/quote">
But, given the fact that you (and hey - most of the rest of us) are divorced, you (we) have yet to actually find a permanent partner, eh?
That wasn't a slap, just a morbid observation, YJ... ;)
Re: Dating and percentages lghawaiian: I too am of the thought that I have my standards, and they are similar to yours. I'm looking for someone who I see as an equal. This means a person has to have, in my eyes, these qualities:
She has to be outgoing, warm and friendly.
The obvious attraction has to be there, but I'm not ridiculously picky.
She has to be of high intelligence. I want to be able to talk to my partner about anything and everything. I love intelligent, stimulating, deep conversation.
She has to have goals that line up with mine. I'm invested in myself now, I can't afford to let someone into my life who will totally deconstruct my own goals and desires.
That connection/chemistry/whatever you want to call it has to be there. A potential partner has to really "get" me.
There might be some other stipulations, other than the obvious (personal hygiene, all teeth intact, etc.). I don't think it's unreasonable, honestly. I refuse to settle. Isn't that what we always tell each other? Don't settle? If someone comes along that sets my world and passions into a soaring state that delivers me to a new quality of life, awesome. If not, I'm still pretty happy with the direction I'm going in right now.
Re: Dating and percentages maine surfer: In my opinion, you, boyz n girls, got it all wrong ;D
Life isn't all numbers and possibilities. It's full of unexpected turns and miracles. I don't know how this reality called life works but it sure does its laws unseen by people. It can be wonderful, fantastic, exciting, full of friends, energy, happiness, full of fun or grim, grey, horrible, miserable and depressing. Full of smiles or tears. It just depends on how YOU look at it. That simple.
Concerning meeting your partner and its possibilities. IMO, it's a wrong approach to deliberately seek a right partner and get depressed by some stupid made up low possibilities. I don't have any rights to suggest you what to do so I just tell you how I live.
I wake up every morning with a smile on my face. I remind myself how lucky I'm to be in the place I'm at, healthy, relatively wealthy, and full of energy and lust for life. I enjoy living; enjoy meeting new people including new women. I do my thing and have fun in the process; I don't go out of my way. I'm not concerned about meeting Ms. Right and anyone else for that matter, I merely live. Women seem to love my lifestyle and want to be a part of it. I'm in control; I get to choose, if I like to. And you know what, miracles happen, they happen all the time. I meet fascinating people and gorgeous lovers. Sometimes I catch myself thinking that I'm living an adventure movie; it's that interesting.
How would I feel had I started thinking of how difficult it is to meet a right partner, bla bla bla. Negative thoughts make it much more difficult to do whatever you do.
Just enjoy living with no strings attached neither to you past nor future. if you are ready and leave you doors open for adventures, they will rush to your door ;D
Works amazingly well for me and might work for you too ;D
Re: Dating and percentages Beachchick: [quote"> She has to be outgoing, warm and friendly.
The obvious attraction has to be there, but I'm not ridiculously picky.
She has to be of high intelligence. I want to be able to talk to my partner about anything and everything. I love intelligent, stimulating, deep conversation.
She has to have goals that line up with mine. I'm invested in myself now, I can't afford to let someone into my life who will totally deconstruct my own goals and desires.
That connection/chemistry/whatever you want to call it has to be there. A potential partner has to really "get" me.[/quote">
I really like what you wrote.....it seems so kind and genuine. Also, what Blazin'heart said. You guys seem to be great.....
I always thought I would date someone, who didn't have a laundry list of requirements....
I see the red flags of course...but, having the person be thin, or have an extended education, or brown hair....is a little much.
As I have matured, I notice that kindness prevails....thoughtfullness counts....patience counts....
Those are the things which make a person great to be with.....
So they have a tummy? Big deal...I like a guy with a little something...to go to sleep on.....:)
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