Re: Delayed exposure, but I've done it! Cherry: Dev,
Im so proud of the way you are handling this.
Ive gotta run to work, but Ill be back to comment further
Cherry
Re: Delayed exposure, but I've done it! devastated: Thanks Cherry! ;D
When the WS comes home tonight, I will tell her I've exposed to her mum, and not to call her tonight. I will tell her that her mum wants to see her, and we should go home tomorrow. We NEED family support now, more than ever.
Her reasons for not going back when I asked her earlier (before she went to the gym) was "What's the point? I thought the point of the week off was to spend more time together?".
I replied that, "No, we're on leave because your manager TOLD you to take the week off. As for the spending time together part, you have been doing your thing, gym, spa, while I've been your second shadow. What's the point of 'spending time together' if you're going back to work next week and will see the OW again and get everything back to square one again?"
What I didn't say was that after hearing me harp on this for the past month, my words were probably like the sound of insects in her ear, irritating. She needs to hear it from someone who means the world to her -her parents. Maybe that will make more of a difference at boosting her resolve to maintain NC.
Re: Delayed exposure, but I've done it! devastated: MIL called me back about an hour after I called her... took a while to sink in, but she's rather upset now. Felt like crap, even though I know it isn't my fault.
WS just called me, demanding to know if I called her mum. She had called up and detected something wrong, and her mum said I had called. Boy, was she MAD! Said I should have done her the courtesy of at least telling her, or calling in front of her. I said her mum insisted that I not tell her until she came home, afraid she would be too mad and couldn't drive properly. I told her I was waiting until she came home to tell her about it. I told her that anyway, I'd already told her I was going to call her parents and tell them before this. She said "whatever, I don't feel like talking to you now" and cut off call.
She will be like a volcano tonight. I wouldn't be surprised if she packed up and moved out -to where I don't know. Sheesh.. I guess this was the expected reaction to exposure where it REALLY mattered. Where it REALLY hurt. WHen I exposed to her manager she was resigned to it, but now she's really MAD. :o
Re: Delayed exposure, but I've done it! Feel: Dev,
I never read your first post to know your exact story, but from what I read here, I'd like to aplaud you for what you did... you ahve to have balls for that! I never did.
I went for years sucking in the bullshit... all along knowing the truth an dhaving it right infront of me thru P.I. person I hired, only becuase I wanted to know forsure.... If I would have let his family know sooner (who thought that can't be possible, cause they know their G) then maybe, it would have stopped and he would have learned a lesson or I would have been in a better mental, stress free, financial state now. But tho I find what you did to have a lot of courage, aren't you the slightest hurt that you embarrassed your wife infront of an employer... or does it go further... WHat I mean is two wrongs don;t make a right... not that you did wrong, I just want to know what gave you that courage!
Re: Delayed exposure, but I've done it! Mr. Incognito: Not to be flippant but aint it kinda funny to watch em' squirm and get mad like a little worm on a big hook when they find out that their parents know about their infidelity? ;D
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