Re: Delayed exposure, but I've done it! Feel: [quote author=Mr. Incognito link=topic=40017.msg441360#msg441360 date=1168957307">
Not to be flippant but aint it kinda funny to watch em' squirm and get mad like a little worm on a ig hook when they find out that their parents know about their infidelity? ;D
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of course, but remember that will always be their child adn let me tell you when his parents found out... he made sure to tell them and make stories of me up about me being with my NM way back when. He has caused so much tension and uncomfort for everyone!
His dad still sits in the livingroom when I drop my son off for his visitation, yet I yell out, "HI"....
But I made it clear to his dad that I hold my head up hi, no matter what he wants to beleive and they will see for themselves sooner than later.
Re: Delayed exposure, but I've done it! Mr. Incognito: Deleted do to my stupidity.
Re: Delayed exposure, but I've done it! Mr. Incognito: "So, back to your question. Yes, two wrongs do not make a right. But I exposed not out of a sense of revenge or self-satisfaction (ok, it was maybe 10% that, to be honest! Grin) but because exposure is the FIRST STEP to ending the affair and to establishing no contact with the OW. Only then can any healing or reconcilliation begin. Its to put pressure on both parties to end the affair and to reveal it as the sleazy, dishonest thing that it is. Thats why I did it."
Yeah but was still kinda fun though huh? ;D
Re: Delayed exposure, but I've done it! devastated: [quote author=Feel link=topic=40017.msg441358#msg441358 date=1168957032"> But tho I find what you did to have a lot of courage, aren't you the slightest hurt that you embarrassed your wife infront of an employer... or does it go further... WHat I mean is two wrongs don;t make a right... not that you did wrong, I just want to know what gave you that courage!
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Hi Feel,
Before I can answer your question, I must say one thing: While OJAR is a WONDERFUL place for venting, support and encouragement, and I've gotten lots of it here, thank you all, www.marriagebuilders.com was where I learned what this animal called infidelity was, and how to go about defeating it and winning back my marriage. I guess reading many people putting the principles Dr Harley teaches to action and in many cases, seeing real results, has helped me to understand what I was up against.
So, back to your question. Yes, two wrongs do not make a right. But I exposed not out of a sense of revenge or self-satisfaction (ok, it was maybe 10% that, to be honest! ;D) but because exposure is the FIRST STEP to ending the affair and to establishing no contact with the OW. Only then can any healing or reconcilliation begin. Its to put pressure on both parties to end the affair and to reveal it as the sleazy, dishonest thing that it is. Thats why I did it.
Re: Delayed exposure, but I've done it! Feel: I thought I was gonna have that feeling of relief finally, but nope... it got worse... arguments escalated, the betray was so unbearable... he went above adn beyond...
He is still trying to give me propositions to go back..... ::) idiot...
then me now him!
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