Something stupid happened tonight...... Beachchick: I broke up with my last bf about 3 months ago. It didn't end well at all. In fact, he hates me more then life. It wasn't a good match on both sides. It worked because we worked together, however, he left the company and we just didnt' have much to talk about...and it ended.
Long story short, I was working out of state for a couple weeks, and met up with his best friend for drinks and dinner one night. The three of us were friends at work, and I've remained good friends with this best friend.
We didn't sit around and talk about my failed relationship, but we did end up drinking a lot...and celebrating because we finished two weeks of grueling work.
At the end of the evening, he professes his feelings for me, and kisses me. I'm schocked...and ask to go home. He is married with two kids. He walks me to my hotel room, and I SHOVE him out the door. He insists on coming in, and pushes his way in....
I fall asleep, on my bed with my clothes, shoes, and jacket on, and so does he. NOTHING happened.
I want to be his friend, but he wants something more. I work with him, and the good part is he lives out of state..
The idea that I dated his best friend for a year, and now he is interested in me, sorta makes me sick. Plus, what kind of asshole would I be to be with a married man with KIDS? I want to just ignore this, and hope it goes away.
I am NOT interested in anything like this.
Any advice on what to do with this situation?
Re: Something stupid happened tonight...... Temporary: My advice: Do not pursue a friendship or any other kind of relationship. By pushing his way in to your room after you shoved him out, he's telling you that your stand on what he wants does not matter. And letting him sleep there anyway is weird, to me. Why did you allow that?
He sounds like huge trouble. Do you work for him directly?
Re: Something stupid happened tonight...... YellowJacket: I agree with SB. I don't know why you'd want to be friends with such an awful person.
Re: Something stupid happened tonight...... JimB: [quote author=Beachchick link=topic=40022.msg440536#msg440536 date=1168853837">
I want to be his friend, [/quote">
Why would you want that, now that you know he's a complete jackass?
Re: Something stupid happened tonight...... Beachchick: He apologized......for pushing his way in and being a jackass about it. I talked to him, and told him, not only was it not cool, but rather scary.
I really didn't know he slept there, because I walked in my room...fell asleep, clothed, and woke up..and he was there, clothed as well. We usually hung out in group situations, and this was the first time, I had ever met him alone, because the rest of the group was busy. I didn't know he was going to be like this.
I don't work directly for him. We work in different departments, and are peers...thank God...and he travels abou 90% of the time.
I don't want to bring this to HR...but I will avoid him at all costs.....I like to keep things amicable...but, in this case...it doesn't matter. I just want him away from me.
