Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? hudson: Tell him how you feel about his little trip and then leave it alone. He has to decide for himself whether or not he should or shouldn't go. The trip is only for a few days and he'll be back in time for the pregnancy. And if you trust him, then it shouldn't be a big deal. If you don't trust him, then his little trip to Mexico is the least of your problems.
I hope it all works out.
Help me out here....how do I deal with this? WhiskeyGirl: Girls!!....actually guys too...I need some opinions here!
So a couple of weeks ago M mentioned that a bunch of the “boys” were going to Mexico in march and wanted him to come…..but that he said no. Said he didn’t want to go without me , etc. Which was great ….cuz to be honest I REALLY don’t like the idea of M going to Mexico with this particular group of guys….AND I will be almost 8 months pregnant at the time. So….all was well…..
THEN…last night on the phone he says “So I was talking to N last night” (I’ve come to the conclusion that something REALLY stupid is going to come out of his mouth shortly following that statement…EVERY time ::) ) Anyway he was talking to N last night…..and he actually thinks he’d like to go to Mexico with them in march. “Oh” I say…. “well that’s nice” (Gritting my teeth) Goes on to say he wishes I could come (I can’t fly, I’ll be in my last trimester, He KNOWS that)
Anyway, I keep my cool throughout the conversation…..but I am PISSED! I mean really pissed off! Am I over reacting?
Seriously…I am going to be almost 8 months pregnant and he is going to screw off to mexico like some single guy with a bunch of guys who have no problem screwing anything with boobers while their wives and gf’s stay home! I KNOW these guys and I’ve seen what happens on these trips. Its not that I don’t trust M, I do….at least I thought I did. But come on here….Mexico? 5 star resort? All the free booze you want? Bunch of guys who think nothing of screwing around? Hugely pregnant gf at home far, far away?!! <<<<Which probably really is the issue here because the only time I feel insecure like this is when I am pregnant….I feel totally fat and unattractive….and he’s gonna spend 2 weeks watching tanned little hard bodies in bikinis. :'(
Nope…I’m fucking mad as hell that he could even consider it.
Kiss my ass you dumb fuck! >:(
How do I handle this guys? Am I over reacting? Yes, okay maybe I have “issues” because my ex screwed around on me so apparently I do have “trust” issues…..but I find it really selfish and ignorant for him to plan to take off to Mexico with anyone and leave me behind like that….especially pregnant with his child. I would never even think of doing the same to him. Do I expect too much? :-\
Help me out here….cuz I’m about to tell him that since he seems to have a problem letting go of living the single life he can just go ahead and stay that way!! ….well maybe not in so many words….but I’m really hurt by this. :-[
I’m constantly second guessing myself if I’m just being hormonal and hyper-sensitive or if I actually have the right to be pissed off…..so I really need some opinions here.
Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? sheeps: WG - for what it's worth, I don't think you are over-reacting. Personally, I don't believe people who are in relationships that they care about would put them in situations that would cause their partner to wonder as you are. I truly believe that bad company corrupts good morals.
Now, many would argue that trust is more important, but I can't get past the idea that those who love us should understand human nature and that situations can get away from the best of us.
In my mind, it all comes down to sacrifice: what are our partners willing to sacrifice to keep our relationship healthy and strong. Mexico will still be there later next year...and how much fun would it be for the both of you to go?
My advice is to get over your anger and approach him directly from the position that he owes you more than that, given your relationship. He may very well be rebelling against the responsibility, but that doesn't mean you should not remind him of it.
I hope everything works out for you.
-R
Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? YellowJacket: [quote author=WG link=topic=40043.msg440809#msg440809 date=1168887771">
How do I handle this guys? Am I over reacting?
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I think the first step would be telling him everything in the paragraph that starts with:
"Seriously…I am going to be almost 8 months pregnant and he is going to..."
I don't know how much of your feelings he already knows yet, but be very careful making an assumption that he's aware of everything in your head.
It's hard to say what's fair in this situation. He doesn't deserve to be treated like a cheater unless he's given you reason for that. Simply being with bad people doesn't make him bad. He's likely to see it that way if you aren't careful with how you approach him about it.
But if he's in a relationship with you then he needs to consider your feelings whether they are "fair" or not (whatever that might mean). If you portray them to him as you have to us -- that they are your insecurities because of what people have done to you in the past -- so that he understands he's not being accused, hopefully the two of you can work through it.
I don't think it's as simple as saying he's wrong for going or you're wrong for asking him not to. I think it's just a situation that the two of you need to work out.
It's difficult when your partner doesn't have friends that you think are trustworthy and respectful. I wish for you that it were different. :(
Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? Temporary: My first question was, what if something happens and you go into early labor and he's in another country?
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