Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? Alphabet Girl: I don't necessarily think you're overreacting. The timing on that is terrible. I went in to early labor with both of my kids and was put on bed rest. I would be resentful if I was in bed and my guy was in Mexico partying it up. Also, even though I would normally trust whoever I was with to go on a trip, I would think that 1) two weeks sounds like a long time - especially if that cuts out on future vacation time with the family or him being home with the baby after it is born and 2) I wouldn't want him going right after the baby was born either - there's just too much to do and he'd be needed at home to help out.
Good luck, I hope everything works out for you okay.
Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? Freckles: [quote author=WG link=topic=40043.msg440809#msg440809 date=1168887771">
Girls!!....actually guys too...I need some opinions here!
So a couple of weeks ago M mentioned that a bunch of the “boys” were going to Mexico in march and wanted him to come…..but that he said no. Said he didn’t want to go without me , etc. Which was great ….cuz to be honest I REALLY don’t like the idea of M going to Mexico with this particular group of guys….AND I will be almost 8 months pregnant at the time. So….all was well…..
THEN…last night on the phone he says “So I was talking to N last night” (I’ve come to the conclusion that something REALLY stupid is going to come out of his mouth shortly following that statement…EVERY time ::) ) Anyway he was talking to N last night…..and he actually thinks he’d like to go to Mexico with them in march. “Oh” I say…. “well that’s nice” (Gritting my teeth) Goes on to say he wishes I could come (I can’t fly, I’ll be in my last trimester, He KNOWS that)
Anyway, I keep my cool throughout the conversation…..but I am PISSED! I mean really pissed off! Am I over reacting?
Seriously…I am going to be almost 8 months pregnant and he is going to screw off to mexico like some single guy with a bunch of guys who have no problem screwing anything with boobers while their wives and gf’s stay home! I KNOW these guys and I’ve seen what happens on these trips. Its not that I don’t trust M, I do….at least I thought I did. But come on here….Mexico? 5 star resort? All the free booze you want? Bunch of guys who think nothing of screwing around? Hugely pregnant gf at home far, far away?!! <<<<Which probably really is the issue here because the only time I feel insecure like this is when I am pregnant….I feel totally fat and unattractive….and he’s gonna spend 2 weeks watching tanned little hard bodies in bikinis. :'(
Nope…I’m fucking mad as hell that he could even consider it.
Kiss my ass you dumb fuck! >:(
How do I handle this guys? Am I over reacting? Yes, okay maybe I have “issues” because my ex screwed around on me so apparently I do have “trust” issues…..but I find it really selfish and ignorant for him to plan to take off to Mexico with anyone and leave me behind like that….especially pregnant with his child. I would never even think of doing the same to him. Do I expect too much? :-\
Help me out here….cuz I’m about to tell him that since he seems to have a problem letting go of living the single life he can just go ahead and stay that way!! ….well maybe not in so many words….but I’m really hurt by this. :-[
I’m constantly second guessing myself if I’m just being hormonal and hyper-sensitive or if I actually have the right to be pissed off…..so I really need some opinions here.
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All my Life People have told me that all you have to do is go to Mexico and there are Hookers EVERYWHERE
The Women are Starving there and will do anything for $5.00
That is the main Attraction and the ONLY reson to go to Mexico for a bunch of guys.
Thats very sad
:(
Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? WhiskeyGirl: [quote author=Freckles link=topic=40043.msg441028#msg441028 date=1168904906">
All my Life People have told me that all you have to do is go to Mexico and there are Hookers EVERYWHERE
The Women are Starving there and will do anything for $5.00
That is the main Attraction and the ONLY reson to go to Mexico for a bunch of guys.
Thats very sad
:(
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Wow...um...I never really thought he would pick up a starving $5 hooker...but...um...thanks for the visual THAT gives me :o
Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? Peaceandquiet: LOL...ok I'm not sure how to follow up on the Freckles post but I'll throw in my thoughts just for the hell of it.
Tell him your coming to visit me while he's gone ;D ;D kidding kidding
From what I remember of him, this would be his first child.. his first real responsability... I'm sure his buddies are talking it up as one last time out before he has to really start to settle down and kinda give up the single life. My personal opnion.. let him go.. tell him to have fun.. not to much.. but enjoy himself. He may need this to blow a little bit of the pressure of having a new baby off just a smidge before it really happens. See you know what to expect and what a real joy having the babies are. For a new father it can be kinda rattling.. and I'm sure his buddies aren't making him feel any better. If he is who you think he is.. he will come back to you the same person who left and maybe a little bit more relaxed and focused.. If not and he screws up.. then its better to find out now than later on down the road. I tend to lean toward the first.. I think he knows what a great thing he's got in you.. and I would bet that he would not screw that up. I'm sure there will be a time later on when its you wanting to go kick your feet up somewhere and hang with your friends. Instill the trust now in him so that he will know that he can do the same for you.
That being said I would also talk to him about how your feeling and why you feel a little insecure about the whole trip.
Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? WhiskeyGirl: Well thats just great....just when I though I was justified in my hissy fit ::)
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He may need this to blow a little bit of the pressure of having a new baby off just a smidge before it really happens.
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LOL....I actually had this conversation with my sister. We were talking about it and I said..."Well maybe he just wants to have one last hoorah" ....my sister goes...'What about you? You've never even had a first hoorah" LMAO Thanks sis ::) Sad but true :-\
Anyway....I'm not going to lose it on him or anything...but I am NOT going to tell him what to do and I'm not going to try to guilt him into staying by going on about poor me and my stupid insecurities...YUK :-X
I AM dissapointed that he has made this decision...but I'm not his keeper....I can either get over it ...or not.
I am still holding out hope that he will get his head out of his ass and change his mind....all on his own ;)
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