Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? WhiskeyGirl: LOL...there really isn't a verdict yet :)
.....but.....the next day he did call me and I was on the other line with my gf long distance so I never answered, just figured I'd call him back after I got off with her.
Anyway I was told by several of my girlfriends to somehow put the shoe on the other foot by mentioning that....while I'm not "happy" about his trip....its great that we trust each other enough to be able to do stuff like that and that I can't expect to do it if he can't...sort of a good for the goose good for the gander type thing....and see how he feels about that.....I figured I'd give it a go....anything to NOT be a whinny insecure cling on!! LOL So anyway.......
He called 3 times in the course of my conversation with my friend and tried my cell phone......the fourth time I finally said goodbye to A and answered. He's goes "oh...where were ya? I've tried a coupe times" I didn't want to say I was on the other line and didn't answer so I said I just got in from feeding. He goes "Oh...I was starting to think you didn't want to talk to me" I say 'Why wouldn't I want to talk to you?" he says..."I don't know....maybe you are pissed off or something" I say "should I be pissed about something"....He goes "no...just ya know...I thought maybe about trip....."
My response? After much deliberation about this...heres what I said..in my sarcastic and rib jabbing kind of way 8)
"Oh I am kinda pissed...I mean I totally understand wanting to go but don't expect me to be jumping for joy that you get to spend 2 weeks with your buddies watching tanned little hard bodies while I'm at home huge and pregnant"
He chuckles and says of course he's not going to be looking at any of them when he has mewaiting for him ::) And that if it really bothers me he wont go.
I said no, of course he should go...I said its only a month or so before we have the baby and then shortly after that we will be all moving in together....so he should go and enjoy himself....life is going to change dramatically after that and I know he's been stressed a bit about it.
He goes..."Really?...so your really okay with it"
I said "Yeah...besides I'm sure theres going to be times when I want to get away with the girls for a while....I can't expect to have that if I can't be okay with you doing it too right?"
now hes quiet for a sec....and then says...."Get away with the girls? what do you mean?"( Bahahahahahaha ;D)
I say..."Ya know...just whatever, a weekend now and then or something"
He's like "hmmmmmmmm....yeah...I guess......"(silence)
Then some casual conversation and 10 min later....."so these girl trips? where do you think you might go?"
I say I don't know...its not a big deal that I've planned out or anything ...just if something comes up that I want to do I know you'll understand.
He again..."Yeah...uhuh.....okay"
Casual conversation again and then "So...on these little trips....how long do you think you'll be gone?"
me (Now laughing outloud) I don't know M...forget I said anything its just nice to know we trust each other enough to do stuff like that..ya know?
Him "Yeah....yeah.....its great....but ummm.....I don't know....I'm not sure I like the idea of these girl trips"
Me "What do you mean? You don't trust me?"
him "Yeah of course I trust you...its every other guy I don't trust"
me Again laughing out loud..."Look we don't have to worry about it now anyway...I'm talking about in the future...we can work it out then."
him "Well...yeah...I guess....I haven't bought my ticket or anything....so I don't know....maybe I won't even go"
Me "Oh M, why not? It sounds like a blast....and after the baby comes its gonna be pretty hectic for a while.....you wont be able to get away so easily"
him " Yeah...I guess.....I'll think about it"
And the subject was dropped......
I can't help laughing....I swear I don't like "games" I really don't...but I can't believe how easy that was to put the shoe on the other foot without having to be the bitch who says he can't go.
((Patting myself on the back)) Well played WG...well played 8)
And Spike.....no matter how hard I push...he's just not going for "Spikette" LOL
its a toss up at the moment....
I like Jordan, Eva and Lane
He likes Dallas and Morgan
Neither one of us are budging ;D
Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? Fendann: I have a cousin named Morgan Lane Fo2's-last-name....very cute girl, very cute name, I think. Maybe you should try something like that. That's how my daughter was named. Ex wanted Alex, I wanted Zoë....and thus, Zoë Alexandria was named...
Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? Freckles: I think You should get Married
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Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? Cherry: ::)
Re: Help me out here....how do I deal with this? Spike: How about Samantha Paulette Ivanna Katherine Eileen??
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