Do you have regrets? litebrite: I've been replying a lot today, so I thought it was time to make a new post for myself. I really liked one thing I heard today about "others on this site have held the mirror up to me and made me see myself for what I really am" or something like that.
My quesiton is about regret. Just when you think you are ready to move on and be happy, the regret seeps in. I could still stop this divorce. We could be completely different. Since we broke up, it's actually been better. Maybe he could be this nice all of the time. We are both so numb we don't fight anymore. There is no screaming. No belittling comments. No sarcasm. We are going about our lives "as usual" and we both seem pretty happy. I know we are a toxic couple. Deep down somewhere I know this breakup is for the best.
Does anyone else slip back into feelings of regret every now and then? Is it just false hope?
Re: Do you have regrets? C-Note: I don't think it's regret I feel, but when the fighting is over and the dust settles your back to looking at the person you spent years loving. Something inside will always want that feeling of being with the ex. Those feeling are chained down though. The scars, the bruses and knowing what's down that road keeps me from going there again.
Re: Do you have regrets? bernie: I don't consider those feelings "regrets" per se, but more like grieving for dreams that could never come true.
Re: Do you have regrets? darkrose: I didn't really instigate her leaving me, and I know now that I didn't deserve to be treated the way she treated me while we were married and when she left me. I filed for divorce when I realized that.
I have no regrets other than the fact that she's seeing what she did to the family she was a part of and now she has to live with that. I feel sorry for her in that respect.
Re: Do you have regrets? gdgross: IMO regrets are for things you wish you had or hadn't done.
In my case, I did nothing to cause her to leave me, and did everything I could to try and save the marriage. There is nothing for me to regret. Of course I wish she would not have done what she did, but that's not really a regret.
My conscience is clean. Hopefully that will help me move on as best I can.
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