Re: Do you have regrets? alonewith2: I regret wasting the years I waited for him. I know that most of that time was needed to be able to walk away with the confidence that I tried my best and gave it my all, but some of that time was just because I was scared to let go. Now I regret that time where I knew it was over, but couldn't find the strength to look ahead to the next chapter.
Re: Do you have regrets? yella: I had a major regret, which still haunts me, and probably always will. But what I'm trying to do each day is understand why I made that choice, and trying to take the good that came as a result of it.
It was a tough lesson for me to learn because that will always be an embarrassing part of my history, but where I am now is 100 times better than where I was then, and for that, I'm thankful. I'm more secure with myself now than I was then.
I think without that mistake, I wouldn't have hit the low that I needed to hit in order to wake up and look at the inside of me. Still learning and still growing.
Re: Do you have regrets? YellowJacket: I wish things had turned out differently than they did. I don't know if I'd say regret but I'm not completely sure. My X was a great match for me when things started and I truly believed that once she hit her late 20's and the laziness changed that we were going to have the perfect marriage.
It's strange to think of my mindset back then and then to know how everything played out after she changed and see what a difference it was. I still get that "did this all really happen?" feeling and it's been a year and a half. It was just such a major change.
As a quick example -- when we met she was a virgin and a devout Christian. When she cheated it was with a guy that is a Satanist, has written lots of books on the subject, and she was trying to get into modeling fetish wear. The guy was in an open marriage and she was one of his girlfriends.
Re: Do you have regrets? Balist: None whatsoever.
Even though my ex treated me horribly in the end of our marriage and through the divorce, I harbor no ill will or even think about would of/could of questions.
I think it was Shakespeare, who said: "It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all."
This has helped me tremendously and now I am in a new and healthy relationship.
Believe it or not it was a taxi driver who helped wake me up to this. I was talking to him one day, going back to my house from the airport, an dhe mentioned his divorce and said: "You can never be able to fully love again until you stop hating your ex because hate/love are the same emotion just the extremes of the same feeling."
Some of the best advice I got.
Re: Do you have regrets? chaotic: I feel regret
Regret that I did not see her for who she was
Regret that I did not stand up to her
Regret that I showed weakness in the beginning of our breakup
Regret that I ever asked her to come back
Regret that I did not leave her
Do I regret the decision to follow thru on the divorce....No. Absolutely not. I am having the time of my life. This past weekend, I started contemplating moving to another state. I no longer have another person I have to consider. Its me, myself and I. I only regret I did not do this sooner. I would be a much happier person.
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