Re: Family involvement in the breakup....comments please tryingtosmile: well, I've been lucky in that his whole family supports me and none of them understand why he did what he did...they are just as lost as I am on what happened to him..
however, to answer your question..I think it would be very hard to be with someone whose family didn't support you or who had even helped encourage your breakup. I get along very well with my husband's family, but I had a long term boyfriend years ago with a very controlling and angry mother. She just didn't want her son to date anyone and tried to limit our time together. It was pretty awful and to tell you the truth, I couldn't imagine living a life with her as my mother-in-law.
I think every situation is very individual but it all boils down to what you are wiling to put up with and how big a role your husbands' family plays in his life. If you want to reconcile with your husband, do not let his sisters' actions spoil that, but be honest about your feelings. Talk to your husband about your feelings on what she did. How does he feel about it?
It's sad that you don't have her support, but you don't necessarily need it to be back together with him.
Re: Family involvement in the breakup....comments please Fendann: My ex in-laws actually supported my ex's affair(s). Her sister did, too.
I never really got along with my MiL, but my FiL never seemed to have any problems with me until I filed the divorce papers. From there, it all went downhill with him. Started calling me names, having me followed around town, butting into my business for no reason.
Whenever they've got my kids, they don't let me talk to them on the phone (I call them every single night, without fail).
Anywho, as per your questions, I have to say yes, I have had the family involved in the breakup. I've brought up my feelings to them, but they simply kick back and start calling names and pointing fingers at everyone but their prescious little girl. I'm not sure that I could ever get past the hatred I harbor for them, but I've gotten over the way they act. I don't let it bother me, and I steer clear of them, just to avoid any unneeded headaches.
I still call their house when they're babysitting my kids, even though I know they won't answer the phone. I do it simply to say "Hey, I tried. I'm not childish, and I'm trying to be the best father I can be for my kids."
