Re: How? Crystal_Blue_024: Have you made lists lone? I made TONS and TONS of lists.... Lists why I was better off, lists why I was such an amazing person, etc. etc. Just making the lists will occupy your mind for awhile, and then when you catch yourself thinking about her, go back to those lists, read them, over and over and over... Keeping a journal is also a HUGE help... When you are thinknig of her, or *them* write about it... It's going to be hell, scream, cry, sob while you're doing it if you want, but right down EVERY SINGLE thing that comes to your mind... Get the poison OUT of your mind....
Re: How? lonewolf: I'm not a 'lists' person... although i am a writer so i jot down a lot...
But with this... i can't write about it as that means i have to think about it constantly...
The image is burned into my retina. I feel like scratching my eyes out. And i was doing so well...
Re: How? lonewolf: Thanks guys.
Lucky (or unlucky) for me i'll be away from home for the next 5 days shooting a commercial... that SHOULD keep my mind of it.
I don't want to lose focus on th job at hand with these *thoughts*. Time is money in the industry.
I've tried books - its too solemn. i have been finding pysical activities help - shooting hoops or just being with friends, or even talking to the other i'm crusing on right now...
But still, you can't do all those things when you're lying aloe in bed at night, and when you wake in the morning and have that visual in an instant.
Re: How? darkrose: [quote author=lonewolf link=topic=40057.msg440998#msg440998 date=1168902720">
How do you get the image of them f*cking out of your head?
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I think about how funny they'd look together. Worked for me until I stopped caring about it and they broke up anyways..
Re: How? destinydriven: It's been 2 years, and it is still difficult for me at times.
There is a reason that you are not with this person, think about all the things that you wanted to do but did not because of her. Write it down, and work that list.
I have been able to do so much since my divorce, all of the things that he held me back from, didn't want to be a part of, or didn't think that I could do. Meet some new people and enjoy life.
Oh...a glass of wine every night helps ;)
