Going out of town LSFool:
Dear fellow Ojarians,
I am going to stay with my father for a week. He is terminally ill (as I found out this last January) and he lives in the middle of nowhere. I will not have e-mail access of any kind there, nor many other modern capabilities. I will be back sometime shortly after the first week in September.
I am in a mood tonight. The mood being that I have had it.
I have had it with estranged husbands who make me wait 3 years after legal separation to get a divorce, I have had it with good looking doctor, cold fish ex-boyfriends who leave the first time I ask them if they have any feelings for me, I have had it with feeling like some kind of criminal when I tell a man on a date that I was "formerly married" because "legally separated" sounds like it happened yesterday and I have not even seen the husband in 2 years and 7 months. I have had it with dealing with this sh** as icing on the cake of a family tragedy. I have had it.
I have decided that I am just going to be balls to the wall from now on, and I just can't afford to care about this sh** anymore. It is taking too much out of me. I can be just as much of a bastard as anybody else. I can play just as dirty and I can be twice as strong. I've had to be. If anything interferes with my October final hearing, I am going contested even if it takes another 3 years. I will get back every cent of MA attorneys' fees that I have spent on that bottom feeder. Even if all goes well in October, there is a 90 day waiting period + 24 hours!! I mean, for the love of G**, can't the judge just waive this considering??
Has anybody else even heard of anyone being separated this long against their will? In a case with no kids, no changed names, and no shared assets??
And PS:
If you have started drinking a lot, but you never pass out or puke or embarrass yourself, can you still be on the road to becoming an alcoholic? Even if you still run every day?
At this rate I won't even make it as an old maid career woman at the sperm bank!!!!
Re:Going out of town Tessa: Hey LSFool,
I am so sorry. I can't believe that you have had to wait so long for the divorce. :( I do know of a guy that was separated for 7 years before he got divorced. So, you are not alone. There are some cases like that.
I know it is hard, but try to hang in there. You are a great person. Remember that ok. :D All the pain that you have been going through is going to make you a stronger and better person. It will prepare you for that one special guy. He is out there. Don't give up hope. Stay strong.
If you want to talk just message me.
Take Care.
Re:Going out of town brokenman: Hey, on the alcoholism thing... I am no expert and can be easily shouted down but to me:
It is not THAT you drink -- it is WHY you drink. And over time, using a buzz as a fog to blur your pain can easily become a fog to blur any pain at all. And eventually, that fog can become a natural haze that is too painful to live without.
That hardly conforms to the "disease" theory that is so prevalent today but to me it makes more sense.
Re:Going out of town amess: LS, have to agree with Brokenman on the drinking. Please be careful how you use alcohol. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, seems like there's nothing but loss going 'round. However, it's not a bad thing to have had it and to get angry, sometimes that gets the show on the road. And no, you do not have to just sit back and wait and drive yourself crazy, taking action is great! I applaud you. Just don't sink to the retard's level, I know you won't anyway. I have had nothing but one loss after the other lately, and today was a doozy. I'm more stunned than anything. And I've had it, too >:(
Re:Going out of town incoherentlonghorn: OH LSFool,
You can do this; you have made it this far. You are intelligent, strong, and a fighter!!!
I have heard of one person who has faced this situation, J******. She was unfortunately, for her, divorcing a divorce attorney who enjoyed torturing her. Although they had one child. But the good news is after 3 years, the actual divorce was finalized.
As for the drinking, I most definately believe that a person can become an alcoholic even thought they don't get technically drunk, hurl, or lose memories, etc.
Wishing you and your father health and happines.
LL
