Re: Living Alone Now marriedinlove: I hear you- do you work? Get together with some people from work for happy hour or just to hang out and watch movies and eat popcorn. Hang out with the girls-- are you far from family? The best thing I have found in the past is to kep yourslef busy. Join a gym. Take a walk. Get a dog. Go shopping. If you sit in your house, you will be miserable. In college when I was feeling down, I would take a drive. Drive down roads you have never been down. See where they lead you. Do not dwell on the past b/c it will make you feel down. Join a book club. Join something to keep your mind off of the stuff you do not want to think about. I am here for you, to listen to you, to help you through your sad days. Please feel free to email marriedinlove@gmail.com. I am married, but need to vent sometimes. Take Care- Hugs
Living Alone Now alonenow: Hi there.
I'm recently divorced and living alone in a new house I just bought. It's empty as money doesn't currently allow me to paint/buy new things, etc. Over time it will, just not right now. It's a big, two story house and I'm terrified. How do you get used to be a young, single woman living alone? I come home at night to a big, empty house with nothing but a cat and I'm alone all night. I'm too scared to shower, too scared to fall asleep. I never realized how scary it could be living alone. Does anyone have any tips or advice for me?
Re: Living Alone Now alonenow: Thanks. I've tried basic things. I pull into the garage and shut the door so I'm not outside alone after dark. I walk in to the house, always have a couple lights on and make sure the doors are locked. I have all the blinds shut, the doors deadbolted, sliding door has a board in it too. If I'm in the kitchen or watching tv, it's not to bad. It's when I start getting sleepy and realize I need to take a shower. I go upstairs, shut and lock the bedroom door, get into the shower and freak out. It's being inclosed in the shower, not being able to hear if someone is downstairs breaking in. Assuming I can get through the shower, getting out and going back downstairs is terrifying. When it's time to shut the lights off and go to bed, that's when I get really nervous. I can leave lights on, tv on, radio, it doesn't matter, I can't fall asleep. It's scary for young women to live alone. Previous to my marriage I always lived in apartments and that was ok. It was a small space and that didn't scare me. It's something about the house that's big, creepy and intimidating. Some people suggested I get a dog, but #1 I don't have the time or money to give it an appropriate home. #2 that would scare me 10 times more to have to walk it at night when it's dark and in the morning when it's dark.
What else can you do to make sure you feel safe? This is a 2300 sq ft house, it's big. It's big for one person. I want to feel safe. I walk around and tell myself that it's in my head and stop letting it get the best of me. When it's daylight, it's not too bad. I still get pretty scared but I can handle it a little better. It's at night, when I'm alone and I can't seem to let my guard down to sleep or shower. :-\
Re: Living Alone Now Lumpy: Roomies? It would give you some extra cash to decorate the house with as well.
Re: Living Alone Now alonenow: I appreciate the idea, I just don't know anyone that needs a roommate. I can't stand the thought of living with a stranger.
I just have to figure out a way to do it. It has to be mind over matter. It has to be.
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