Re: Todays black hole......... CDNgurl: [quote author=YellowJacket link=topic=40075.msg441391#msg441391 date=1168962315">
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1) I pulled out old love letters from my first boyfriend. That reminded me that I am completely loveable. :)
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I would be so nervous to do that. I think I might feel like "I had this strong connection to a person and now I don't have it." Even if I completely didn't want that person anymore, I think it would make me feel even more lonely by reminding me of what I don't have while reading them.
I'm glad that worked for you. I don't mean to imply it's bad advice or anything like that, just that it's interesting how we all differ. [/quote">
I think the key is that I have zero connection there anymore. I know he's married with two kids I think? I would never want to reconnect. We were very young and the letters were half silly, and full of adoration. He was not my soulmate that's for sure.
It helped to be reminded of my worth -- and it helped me realize I could have that again.
Re: Todays black hole......... JadedButtafly: i'm feeling that voice today...oh boy i feel so alone :'( i usually take myself out shopping and buy something for me........screw the rest of the world, I feel so alone.
Re: Todays black hole......... Crystal_Blue_024: I go to the gym... Come home...Take a shower, shave everywhere... Give myself a mini-pedi... Put on my sexiest outfit, the one that hugs me in ALL the right places.... Do my hair and make-up... Put on my favorite accessories... Go out for drinks with the girls... Drink something sexy, like a cosmo... Then dance the night away!
Re: Todays black hole......... atlgirl777: Cherry................I wish I new the answer hun, I'm right there with ya! :'(
Re: Todays black hole......... sheydp: Read something funny - I like the joke boards at that time. When you are happier, you can take downer things easier. I talk to a friend who helps me see that I am only thinking of my side - they help me see that things I was beating myself up about are probably not about me at all. Probably the person saying/doing or NOT saying/doing things has their own issues that make them act/be that way. It isn't about me being bad, but them having their own issues. And... the having friends TO talk to helps a lot too. Just because the "one special one" isn't there or isn't responding the way you want to doesn't mean you aren't unique, special, loved. Your support system can't be about just one person.
Shey
