Re: I dont understand, Men that dont want to have sex vdc_1975: [quote author=Freckles link=topic=40087.msg441708#msg441708 date=1168980095">
Sex Sex Sex
It seems to me that some use Sex to get back at their Spouse because
they are SelfCentered Selfish Me Me Me Me type Person.
They don't have any Love/Careing about the *Other* Person , they are just a Spoilt Brat who wants to withhold Sex. The Glue that holds a Marrage together
They want thier Marrage to Collapse so * No Sex ! *
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I dont think any of the situations I am familiar with used sex as a weapon or as leverage, the guys are genuinely not interested at all.
Re: I dont understand, Men that dont want to have sex Lumpy: [quote author=Mugged By Fluffy link=topic=40087.msg441531#msg441531 date=1168969391">
2) The way a person makes you feel(emotionally) will always/eventually take precedence over the way he or she looks.
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Winna-winna, chicken dinna!
Re: I dont understand, Men that dont want to have sex smokin: if i were 900 pounds, with my arms and legs gone, with no hair, with gangerean in both feet with a cathater and a pace maker, id want sex.
go figure..........
Re: I dont understand, Men that dont want to have sex ionysis: My ex boyfreind (one before current ex) had a very low libido - happy with once a fortnight. This was not just with me, he simply wasn't and still isn't that into having sex. I have an unusually high libido (preferably as often as possible) so we were totally sexually mismatched.
I happen to need to sleep with my partner very often or I'm not happy. Being deprived of sex for me causes an inability to concentrate, mood swings, irritability, depression, increased appetite etc. so needless to say it didn't work out. We were great friends (and still are - he's like a brother to me) but lousy lovers. he's now with a girl who has a similar lack of interest in sex and they seem very happy.
Some poeple just aren't sexually compatible and of course if one of you apears sexually demanding the other is likely to retreat further and so the sex becomes even less frequent. Not to denigrate the importance of other aspects but I personally think that finding someone who I am well matched with in this sense is vital for me to be happy in a relationship. I guess it matters more to some than others.
Re: I dont understand, Men that dont want to have sex katbuttkid: I think it's intimacy issue based.
To love someone, marry them.... I dunno, a lot of men aren't very in tune wiht their feelings. They can know they love their wives, but insofar as fully feeling that on a daily basis and wanting/needing to act on it, are different.
Also, I think this problem is a negative feedback cycle. The woman says "We don't have sex enough" and there it is: the new reality. And it's a problem, but already the man feels inadequate, or instead of taking it as an opportunity to say "O, we don't huh? Why don't we start then?" it seems the offended spouse is more apt to just sorta go "I haven't felt like it"
Also, if the women are hot, the men might be feeling less attractive (In comparison) and might have some self-fulfilling prophesies going on that she'll eventually lose interest in him anyway?
Do these women/couples you know have children?
I don't know. But the feeling that a man is providing, (money stability, etc) might be enough, or that doing so takes his focus off the wives.... that makes sense too.
Both of my good girlfriends in school with me are both going through divorces-- neither one of their husbands were puting out!
That's sorta the reason one is getting divorced, but not the reason the other one, just a symptom.
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