Re:hopeless feelings recentlydiscarded: How long have you been divorced and how long were you married? I look forward to having your positive attitude about it all. Right now all I have is time but I wish it would go by faster.
Re:hopeless feelings Bubba: The question you should be asking is not if you will ever be good enough for someone, but if anyone will be good enough for you. I was with my STBX for 11.5 years. In the past 7 months, she told me how unsexually attractive I was to her. I caught her cheating. I was willing to forgive her. I sought out a therapist at her request. I planned a romantic weekend away that cost me over 2k for one night! I have never treated her badly. In fact she is the first to admit that I was a great husband, and an amazing father. So in the end what do I find out? That she never stopped cheating. That it was with this guy she works with that I always suspected. Even when I came back after a trial separation and we agreed not to date others till the house closes, she lied and kept seeing him.
So the question for me, as it should be for you, is who is good enough for you? Because I know my stbx sure as heck doesn't deserve to be treated like a princess, the way I always treated for 11.5 years. So now she can go out and discover the world of morons. She can discover the OM, whom was cheating on his wife, in the end will not treat nearly as well. By the time she realizes this, it will be, and in fact already is, far to late.
In short, you don't need to worry. You have nothing to prove. It is the guys whom will most certainly want to date you that have to prove they are good enough.
Cheers.
Bubba
Re:hopeless feelings recentlydiscarded: Wow, thanks Bubba. That actually made me smile. Coming to this site has already started to restore my faith that there are in fact good men out there...you just have to weed through all the horrible ones to find em.
Re:hopeless feelings Kinney26: I was married for four years. I have been separated for 3 months. My divorce will be final in a couple months.
Re:hopeless feelings amess: Amen Bubba! He is not good enough for you. He is not the arbitrator of who is worthy and who isn't. Do not let anyone define your self-worth for you, but you. Let him be his own worst enemy.
