Question Druid13: I have a friend that has been recently divorced as well who when we talked at one point told me she did not want to get involved in a romantic relationship. We kept in contact however and have seen each other a few times over the past year. We live about 8 hours apart so we kept in contact over the internet. At one point I thought she was interested in me possibly romantically because she had bought a very nice gift for me and I did the same. There have been almost hints that she thought of me as more than a friend but then she has backed off. My question I guess is could this person be intersted in more than a friendship ...but be scared after being hurt by divorce? I know and understand that feeling. Now we have not talked for awhile and I don't know if I should proceed ? I really do like this person alot ..as a friend already...but don't want to hurt her...or myslef. And now the situation seems very confused. Any advice?
Re:Question jason_stl: What was the gift? I don't mean monetarily, I mean what was it exactly and why was it so important? Did she know it would be something that would provoke a response if she sent it (such as you two discussing something over IM and she remembered)?
All that aside, you must remember that even the tallest of oak trees started as an acorn. Don't let all the opportunities pass you by.
Re:Question Druid13: I think it was someting she thought would provoke a response. I won't get into details but it was something really nice and personal in a way . It was something that was discussed. I almost got the feeling that she was testing the waters a bit...then got scared...and I understand that if it is the case. I am scared too. She is a really great person though and as a friend has been there for me when I was down. I've tried to do the same. I just don't know if she is being just a friend or if the possibility exists for more? She is really great though.
Re:Question jason_stl: You might as well give it a shot. Hell, she may just be apprehensive because you two are eight hours away. Give her a non-threatening nudge and see her reaction. That way if it doesn't go the way you want it, you can retreat without damaging the friendship.
Re:Question Druid13: like I said it is a tough read. I think in some ways I may have pushed too hard without really meaning to. I was trying to be nice. But things right now seem at a standstill I guess. Then I almost feel guilty....for liking this person. It's crazy I guess.
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