Confused....input please Tantan: My stbx ( i think ) is having an affair but wants to wait a year before we go though with the divorce. He says he has a bad feeling about going through with it right now.
He said he's willing to go to counselling but not willing to give up this OW right now. ( He always adds in the right now )
I am sure this is pure manipulation to keep me around as he makes sure she is the one.
Should I file for divorce, or should I wait for him to do it?
In many ways I want to do it but I feel like he will get off without having to make the final decision that ends all.
Im confused with his behaviour.
Any comments or ideas on this ?
Thanks
TanTan
Re:Confused....input please DOC: I have never been in your situation, so take it for what it's worth.
If I knew my other half was having an affair I would have been down to the court so fast her head would have spun. But, to me, cheating is the ultimate wrong you can do to someone that loves you.
You said, you thought he was having an affair, you'll know sooner or later if he is. Maybe you should decide what you'll do once you find out. As for me, I wouldn't be sitting on the sidelines waiting for him to decide if I was ready to pitch or not.
be strong,
Doc
Re:Confused....input please Bubba: My stbx did cheat on me. I gave her another chance as long as she stopped seeing the OM immediatly and then we would try to work it out. I caught her a few months later still cheating. She was out of the house that week. Don't put up with it.....trust me it only prolongs the pain. If he really wanted councilling then he would get rid of the OW. Otherwise he is full of crap.
Re:Confused....input please Tantan: He is definitly having the affair, thats not even the question.
You are probably right though, I should get to that lawyer ASAP.
Thanks for your response.
Re:Confused....input please Tantan: [quote author=Bubba link=board=1;threadid=4024;start=0#msg31365 date=1093980708">
My stbx did cheat on me. I gave her another chance as long as she stopped seeing the OM immediatly and then we would try to work it out. I caught her a few months later still cheating. She was out of the house that week. Don't put up with it.....trust me it only prolongs the pain. If he really wanted councilling then he would get rid of the OW. Otherwise he is full of crap.
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You have a good point Bubba, he doesnt really want the counselling or he would get rid of the OW.
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