Need advice... christian: STBX called me first thing this morning- she wants me to go with her to fill out the paperwork for the divorce. What do I do? I feel that we can reconcile, she doesn't, but all I want is for her to be happy. Anyone else feel this way?
Re:Need advice... Kinney26: I am living it right now. I was just in the lawyers office 2 days ago with the stbx going over the terms of divorce. I should have the papers in the mail by next week. I also don't want to get a divorce, but unfortunately it takes 2 to make a marriage work. I think it could work if she gave it a chance, but she has refused. I figured I could drag it on, but where woulld that get me. I decided that I might as well get it done and start to move on. She's told me she isn't coming back and she doesn't want to work on it, so I just did what I felt I had to do. I didn't want to prolong it just to do it a year from now.
Re:Need advice... cloud: Kinney is right, unfortunately.
That's nice that you just want her to be happy, but keep in mind your feelings, too. And they are most important in terms of getting through all of it.
Best thing is to let her know how you feel but to move forward with the divorce. Do you have to go with her to fill out the paperwork? If that would be painful, back out of it and ask her to just drop the paperwork off with you.
Re:Need advice... christian: No, I don't need to go w/her (God knows I don't *want* to do this). But I feel I should. If only to show her I'm not a complete bastard. I'm just very mad at myself for making her want to do this. And it's killing me. I've got this burning in my throat that won't go away. I know she loves me, why doesn't she want to try? I just want to go to sleep and not wake up.
Damn, this hurts.
Re:Need advice... cloud: What did you do to make her want to do this?
That's the question.
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