Re:Need advice... Tantan: I know how you feel, its so hard to let go.
This lady may still have feelings for you but the type of class act love you deserve she is not going to be able to give you sweetie.
How would you really feel if she came back just because you convinced her to, not because she really wanted to be with you, I dont think you would ever be happy in that situation.
Things happen for reasons we dont understand, right now you cannot see the big picture but in time you will see that your life has so many new amazing possibilities.
Be strong, remember you deserve the best.
Re:Need advice... christian: http://www.ojar.com/boards/index.php?board=1;action=display;threadid=3985
read this thread...
Re:Need advice... cloud: I read the thread.
I think you are right in wanting to be an upstanding guy for her now through the divorce process. I just would be a gentleman about it--as much as you can.
You obviously feel responsible for the end of the marriage, so show her that you can end it with respect for her.
She may see that you've changed and that your heart is in the right place. At the least, she'll at least appreciate that you are trying to do right by her.
Re:Need advice... christian: You know what... now that I've lost everything, I feel oddly liberated.
