Laughing at myself Beren: Okay, folks, I just realized I'm a total dumbass.
I covered a lot of the Shirine/Miriam situation elsewhere, but I'll give a brief run-down again here.
I met Shirine about three weeks ago. She's the bartender at the bar down the street. I'd describe her as "cute." Not a knockout, just very pretty. But there's something about her personality that really appeals to me, and that feeling has only intensified in the time I've known her.
I took her to the movies the Sunday after I met her. I didn't think it went so well, but I went back to the bar a couple times the next week, and I still really liked talking to her, so I thought maybe things went better than I feared. I asked her to call me the next Sunday.
So, she called me on Sunday (8/22) and told me that she and her sister Miriam were going out for sushi, and she wanted to know if I wanted to come along. This was my first time meeting her sister. Now, although Shirine is very attractive, Miriam is so beautiful that I swear my heart stopped for a good five seconds the first time I saw her. But I was supposed to be there with Shirine, so I resolved not to pay her much attention. I figured it'd be completely rude.
But for whatever reason I'll never understand, Miriam thought I was the sexiest thing she'd ever laid eyes on, and she kept flirting with me all day. I wasn't very comfortable, so I kept giving her a hard time. (E.g., she asked me what my favorite color was, and after answering, I asked her back. She said grey was her favorite. I said, "Is grey really your favorite color, or is that just something you say to sound interesting?") Apparently, the banter just drew her in more. (Duly noted for the future, by the way.)
Shirine invited me over the next day, and pretty much the same thing happened. By this time, I just figured that Shirine wasn't interested in me, and she was probably just trying to hook me up with her sister. Shirine hadn't paid me any attention at all during those two days, even though she was the one calling to invite me over. It's possible, I suppose, that Shirine is a little shy, but it doesn't really make sense.
Wednesday (8/25), we all went out to play pool; Shirine, Miriam, me, and some guy named Cory. I shouldn't go out on Wednesdays, since I work a regular 9-5 Monday-Friday job, but I couldn't say no. I ended up getting pretty drunk and spent a good deal of time making out with Miriam. It was very nice, by the way. I called in sick on Thursday.
So, basically, that's how it is that I ended up with Miriam instead of Shirine. The thing is, I still like Shirine better. And I can't shake the feeling that she really likes me, too. I mean, as more than a friend. It's obvious we're at least friends. I can feel it when we're together; I don't sense any pretenses or discomfort. We just click.
Here's the part where I feel like a total dumbass. Yesterday, Shirine called me a few times; at the end of the day, she invited me to come over. I seriously spent a good part of the day thinking about her--you know, that pleasant daydreamy feeling and all that stuff. I was really looking forward to seeing her. So why the heck, when I went over there, did I spend most of my time making out with her sister? Not that I'm supposed to be making out with both of them or something; I realize I have to pick one. It's just that I shouldn't shut Shirine out.
I'm thinking of establishing a new rule. The role I play when I go over there will be dependent on who calls me. If Shirine calls me, then I'm there as Shirine's friend. If Miriam calls me, then I'm there as Miriam's... whatever it is I'm supposed to be... make-out buddy or something.
It's not that I'm not having fun. I most certainly am! It's just that it's important to me that I minimize hurt feelings as much as possible. I could definitely see Shirine and I being good friends for a long, long time. Anything that happens with Miriam seems almost definitely to be fleeting.
Beren
Re:Laughing at myself cloud: Beren,
Get off this site!!
Right now. Do not come back.
You make me 100% sick....with envy!!!
(but keep us posted)
Re:Laughing at myself Spectrum: D@MN IT, where's my popcorn when I need it?!?!
Spectrum.
ps. Beren, did you ever actually *ask* Shirine about this like I suggested? Instead of running around like a blind man, you might consider this option. :p
Re:Laughing at myself ChristyM: Are you kidding Spec? They don't ask for directions, how can you expect them to ask who they should be making out with? ;)
Re:Laughing at myself JTS: Hey Christy. On behalf of men everywhere I am offended.
Sisters??? Forget Wayne and his 2 women, I have a new hero. ;D
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