Post Divorce Professinal Help???? Suddenly Single: I have an appointment next thursday to see a counselor. Has anyone else sought professional help? Does it help? Or am I wasting my time?
I'm nervous to go and don't know what to expect.
Re:Post Divorce Professinal Help???? tazme: I have seen someone through my STBX EAP program at work. I have gone twice & didn't really feel comfortable with him. I have an appointment tomorrow morning w/someone my family doctor recommended.
I don't know if it will help. I seem to be doing ok, but since I will be moving next month, I don't know if that will send me in a tail spin or not.
I guess the most important thing is to feel comfortable with the counselor. If you don't, ask your doctor, a friend, someone that you trust if they know of anyone.
I'll keep you posted on tomorrow's appointment!
Good luck!
Tazeme
Re:Post Divorce Professinal Help???? whathef?: It helps if you find one that you're comfortable with.
You may be surprised that the focus will/could be on you and your role in the M.
I have been seeing a C in Atlanta who has been a Godsend.
Amazing, the enlightenment I have experienced in such a short time.
All (mostly)the focus has been on me and why I chose the relationships I have.
Also, I have come to learn and have a little understanding that whatever happens in life, it is our Soul guiding us and teaching us.
Every experience is an opportunity to learn if we find out how to look for those opportunities.
The bigger the hurt the greater the lesson.
Councilling has also helped me eliminate any blame I had towards my W.
Without feeling like she was to blame for MY situation, I lost all the anger.
Anger was tough and didn't think I'd get past that so soon.
The understanding that it is MY life, MY choices, and MY responsibility, eliminated the need for blame.
I'm hoping for a better way to get across what I'm trying to say.
It will come to me......
Short answer....'yes' councilling should help.
Re:Post Divorce Professinal Help???? SherylLynn: Counseling helps!!!
I have been seeing someone for 3 weeks now and both me and the stbx see her individually and as a couple. Don't know where that will lead, but.....
At first she was really gung ho about getting us to reconcile, but when I saw her yesterday alone, she really was leaning me in a different direction.
Why do you want to be with him? What does he bring to the relationship that you need? When does he make me happy? Sometimes? Never? Always? Why am I willing to be with someone for answer that isn't always?
She is really helping me to look inside myself for the answers, the answers I know are there, but can't control yet. Not ready to handle the reality, but I am glad I am going and I think that when it is all said and done, if we don't reconcile, then I will be a better person for the next guy.
Take care,
Sheryl
Re:Post Divorce Professinal Help???? Tantan: Ive been seeing a therapist from my church, it has helped. I find that after Ive seen him I feel much better for the next few days and then i tend to forget the things he instilled in me. My husband also sees him so i feel like I get an honest clear opinion. It can never hurt so i think its worth the try.
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