Re:STBX came over last night Bubba: You hit the nail on the head Pic. And Spec, you are soooo correct. I will always love my stbx in some way, but trust and want her back? Not in this life time. As Pic said, I love her for what we had, but I hate for what she has become.
Re:STBX came over last night ostia: [quote author=picadilly link=board=1;threadid=4049;start=0#msg31665 date=1094167242">
I'll never stop loving my stbx either. She was my first "great" love, the first woman I asked to marry me. How can you stop loving that person? You can't. But you can stop loving who they are now. In fact, I don't love the woman she is now for the simple fact that I don't know her, she is a stranger to me. I'll never stop loving that girl I knew but for all intents & purposes, she is dead to me. She died with the death of my marriage.[/quote">
Hi Picadilly,
I couldn't agree with you more. That's exactly how I feel about my ex. The funny thing is that even though I have moved on and am now much happier now that I was when I was with him, he still haunts me sometimes...I just still can't help but wonder what happened to the person he used to be...it really is as if he died and was replaced by a total stranger.
Heliotrope
Re:STBX came over last night picadilly: Hey Helio, long time. ;)
Yup, I do the same thing. Some where in the last year of our marriage, she just... vanished & I never noticed. I think that is the worst part looking back on it now, that I had no idea the woman I loved stopped loving me. That all the little wierd things I did that once endeared me to her, became annoying. Just one of those things I guess. :P
She told me that she grew & changed & I didn't, that change is good. Um. sorry, if you never saw or noticed my growth or change, I think maybe she was a little too close to the flame to notice the fire. Anyway, the past is the past & we move forward to bigger & better things. ;)
