Re: My Wife Left me for a Grandpa mikebolton: Moose,
I know exactly how you feel. I received alot of good advice on my post "Wife left me with 3 girls", it's right above yours on the maine page. I am almost 2 months out from the knife in the family and everyday is still a rollercoaster of emotions but it has slowly gotten easier to function. I feel for you man, us active duty guys have to stick together.
Re: My Wife Left me for a Grandpa craez: i agree with wizer. she's sleeping with him. at least she had the decency to lie about it. and even if she's not, she might as well be. she's already cut you off emotionally and physically.
i'm really sorry you're going through this. who knows where it's going. every break-up/divorce seems to be unique. odds are it IS over. you're probably going to hear advice you'd rather not follow, and find out things (from her) you'd rather not know. no doubt you've realized this whole divorce thing hurts. there's not much i can say except my heart is with you. i hope you post on here and talk to friends and family when you're feeling really down. everyone here can sympathize. we'll all be here for you.
Re: My Wife Left me for a Grandpa lightseeker: Moose, I'm really sorry to read what you are dealing with. I don't know that I have much advice, but I do know that understanding the situation can be helpful. I suggest that you look up some information on line about "Attachment Disorder", particularly the subsets having to do with "avoidant adults" and "disorganized adults". I came across this information the other day and wow it really hit home regarding my wife's seemingly distorted view of our marriage and how past experience can make someone process relationships in an unhealthy way. Anyone out there reading this who has a spouse who is distant, unempathetic, and overly independent might want to look this up. It explains how past experiences with adults during childhood can cause difficulty in bonding during marriage and how this can result in the person moving from one relationship to the other looking to re-live an old psychological pattern. Often these people are uncomfortable with intimacy and will subconsciously hook up with someone who they "can't" be close with. Leavers sometimes fit this category. I know that understanding this has helped me some. Good luck Moose, I hope she can see the light or at least understand what is motivating her seemingly irrational direction. Lightseeker
