Re: Is my wife a lesbian - revisited (Part 1) turning leaf: IS MY WIFE A LESBIAN?
[quote author=piterek link=topic=40514.msg448675#msg448675 date=1169851659">
I met her online in a lesbian chat room of all places! [/quote">
YES. I didn't have to read the whole story after the quote above but I did. After reading 3/4 up to the BASIC story, if you can't digest and accept that she''s lesbian, try this: she's BI at most.
You provided her her U.S. papers, you're paying for everything and she's acting butch and not doing wife duties. ***scratching head*** Not rocket science.
Do you think, in your heart of hearts, after all the lies and betrayal and 1,500 text messages from her to another woman plus the lesbo chaat she's doing, you can trust her again???
Re: Is my wife a lesbian - revisited (Part 1) piterek: I'm not sure if they allow recruits to use cell phones, but she sure has been able to use it until 1/19. Just got back from work and checked the mail. New letter from the wife. Looks like this one was written on 1/18, so she was not aware of what has transpired recently. This recent incident occured on 1/22. According to the letter she is very busy and does not hve much personal time so that's why she has nt been able to use her cell phone. Or, who knows, maybe they took it away. Anyway, she should be getting my letter any day now. So, I'm sure that she'll try to use her cell phone or write another letter ASAP to get in touch with me. Right now I'm ready for anything and know that I can't force her to change. Que sera sera. I do love her and want things to work out. Maybe she is just confused and needs counceling. Who knows, since I can't communicate with her and can't see her face to face, it's all speculation. ???
Re: Is my wife a lesbian - revisited (Part 1) just_me_detroit: I'm sorry Piterek. I really should actually read your posts. I can't focus right now. My brain can't read that much. I guess I'm just posting on topic.
I suspected my wife was bi for 2 years. I suspected my wife had a lesbian lover since May. I've known my had a lesbian lover since September.
I thought I was ready to hear her tell me the truth.
Tonight she did.
I wasn't ready, and it is ripping me apart right now.
:'( :'( :'( :'(
Re: Is my wife a lesbian - revisited (Part 1) piterek: JMD. She had that incident with the girl she met on the on the internet. Without going too much into details, I know very well that she didn't have sex with her, it was more of an emotional affair. The second indicent which I just discovered this week, well...I can't say for certain, but I also don't think there was anything physical there. It might have eventually gotten to that point if I never intervened, but right now I just can't say for sure since I can't talk to her. Whether there were any other incidents between those two? Not certain, but so far I have been very good at spotting them. In any case, perhaps she was doing this just to feel close to someone, since there really was no intimacy between us for a long time. Everything is just so confusing and what makes the situation worse is that I can't talk to her and get her side of the story. I think that her going to the Army might have been one of the biggest mistakes she could have made, as far as our relationshp is concerned. It was just bad timing. Or, who knows, maybe that discipline might do some good. She'll get her ass kicked and realize that like is not always peaches and cream. That reains to be seen...
Re: Is my wife a lesbian - revisited (Part 1) devastated: That sexy, English accent girl said she was engaged? Try to find out to who and expose it to him with proof. You have done well exposing to her parents, that will put pressure on her to end the affair, but you should try to attack both sides if possible (the OW and your WS). Expose to anyone who can put pressure on her to end the A.
Your marriage can survive her anger over the exposure, but it cannot survive an ongoing affair.
Good luck and welcome to OJAR.
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