Man says "You are the One for me". Macaw_Lover: So a little background 1st. Want to also apologize for the length and appreciate anyone taking the time to read.
I met this man when I was 18 and I’m not 26 and him turning 27 in Feb. When I met him he was with a girl and it was quite serious. He told me he thought he was going to marry her. They were together 3 yrs. The last 6 months she started being controlling and he said I loved her so I put up with it until one day I just snapped and couldn't take it any longer. She would tell him he couldn't even hang out with his guy friends because they hung out with other females. Stupidest thing I EVER heard of!
Anyways bitter breakup and he hasn't seen her since. After that he was single for about 1 1/2 yrs before I ran into him again. He danced around me flirting, but usually when drinking. So I thought what he has to drink to want me? Well I didn't go for this until one day sober he got the nerve and said I’m sorry I am just so nervous around you. We dated for almost 3 yrs, but I think he always in a way looked at me like I would do the same as his ex. He never lied in fact honestly I probably should have left way before the 3 yrs due to the fact he was saying he never wanted a serious commitment again, nor marriage, nor kids.
Well we broke up 3 yrs ago and a week ago I saw him. I called him and he invited me over. I wasn't nervous in the least bit and he had some guy friends over, but walked downstairs with me. He looked at me picked me up and kissed me and said how much he missed me. This went on for a long time (2 hrs or so) with him saying things such as "Why did we ever break up", "I think you are the one for me", "I think we were just to young when we started dating and things have changed, I’ve changed".
I got to admit I was ready to take him into the bedroom, what can I say I DO love him so very much still! Anyways he gently stopped me and told me he had been seeing this girl who he has known since he was 14. He said it's over, she knows it and I know it....it's just not official yet so I don't want to cross that line until it is. Saying there is always tomorrow or the next day.
I have a few guy friends who said for a guy to be worked up for 2 hrs to stop sex shows maturity and respect. What do you think on this?
Also leaving there I remember thinking there was something so different about him, that I liked but couldn't put my finger on it. Finally did and that is Sarcasm and smart A$$ side of him. I mean don't get me wrong I to am sarcastic sometimes, but with him previously when we 1st dated it was I swear every other sentence! Now that night after 3 hrs with him I don't remember one sarcastic remark.
How do I proceed? Will he just come to me? Should I do something to make sure he knows to I want to give it another try, that it wasn't just a make out session? I guess I don't want to just sit back and do nothing; I love him and as much as I want him to fight for me I to am willing to fight for him.
Or do you guys just think this is just a bunch of malarkey and if so why did he stop sex when he so easily could have said nothing and proceed?
Re: Man says "You are the One for me". jmarie: Sit on your hands.
He needs to come around, especially since he's in this thing with this other girl. Men say all kinds of things when they are aroused or if they think they can have sex with you.
Contrary to what your guy friends think, I think the whole thing about holding off on the sex does not bode well in your favor. Now he knows that you're down with having sex with him whenever. This guy is a genius! He's breaking up (or supposedly breaking up with) with a girl and now has a definite back-up in the wings. Looks like there is going to be no "lonely penis" syndrome here when he breaks up with that other girl, natch.
You need to make sure that you're his first choice. You deserve to be someone's first choice. And since you love him so fiercely, you want him to feel the same. You have to let him come around. You loving him all day and all night does NOT equal him feeling the same.
Re: Man says "You are the One for me". katbuttkid: J marie has a really unique insight.
Now I think maybe I got played by a genius!
Yeah, the make-out thing... stalling the sex.. hmmm. Maybe it is to whet the appetite and see how willing you are.
I need to do some due dilligence.
And so do you.
These guys.... you need to vertify the facts he's been telling you. That he's breaking up with the girlfriend.
That he's not just after no "lonely penis syndrome" that he is really truthful and not just goofing around.
Give yourselves both some time, let it all settle and see how it feels. Meanwhile, try to verify what you were told.
Tree
Re: Man says "You are the One for me". jmarie: Haha Tree, I don't know how unique it is but I think sometimes guys try to gauge how much we like them with sex. Especially now that men know that a lot more women like to have sex and are expecting it in a relationship. 8)
