Re: Having dates me makes think about my ex -- why? JimB: [quote author=Mango25 link=topic=40533.msg448836#msg448836 date=1169910947">
Why am I thinking about him MORE instead of less?[/quote">
Why wouldn't you? You obviously had a great many happy times with him in a romantic context. You expected to spend the rest of your life repeating those romantic experiences with him. So it's very natural for you to feel this way, especially when the breakup is so recent. (Took me well over a year to feel comfortable in the dating scene. Not to say your time frame will be similar, but there's no need for you to hurry.)
[quote"> It makes me so angry that I feel bad about this, but he could be seeing me and dating someone else and not bat an eye. WTF?[/quote">
Why waste your energy being angry? One, you really have no idea how he is really feeling about it - male ego demands he put on a great show of being happy for your benefit. Two, he's a guy, and guys experience these things differently. Three, he's not you, and ANYONE is going to experience these things differently than you.
If dating is making you uncomfortable, you can decide to wait until you're more ready. Or you can decide to push forward and hope the experience of dating helps you move past the pain. Either way, it's your call.
(And yes, I know you were kind of just venting. But since you didn't post it in the venting area, you left yourself open to my semi-useful logic. ;D)
