Re: So mad at both men!!! wizer_now: Three different things going on here:
1) The response of your stbx towards your daughter at the soccer game. I think his actions as you stated them to be were irresponsible, rude, and inconsiderate. I can understand how your daughter must feel, and that's a shame. She is understandably hurt, and unsure how she stands in his life. The text that he sent after the game was a second slap in the face, even if that was not his intent.
2) The response of your daughter towards the stbx's gf. I see where your daughter might have felt awkward, and resentful, especially if this interaction occured after it was obvious that she was being blown off by the stbx. Sure, she could have taken the high road, but she's just a kid, a hurt kid, and her reaction is understandable.
3) Your BF's reaction to your daughters reaction to the stbx's gf. See (2) above. I think that would have been the more reasonable response. Based on your description of events, he's outta line, and it may be an indication of issues that have yet to surface in your relationship.
Re: So mad at both men!!! flipflopnomore: Thank you. I was beginning to think I was crazy. Its one thing that they hurt us, but I feel so bad that my kids are hurt by it all too.
I am wondering if this is an indication that maybe I shouldn't be dating yet. I still have feelings (love and hate) for my stbxh. He still has so much affect on my emotions and its causing issues in my relationship with bf.
Re: So mad at both men!!! wizer_now: [quote author=flipflopnomore link=topic=40543.msg449042#msg449042 date=1169940718"> I was beginning to think I was crazy.
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No, you're not crazy.
[quote author=flipflopnomore link=topic=40543.msg449042#msg449042 date=1169940718"> I am wondering if this is an indication that maybe I shouldn't be dating yet.
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I don't see a connection. However, you should probably date guys that show more compassion towards your chldren.
Re: So mad at both men!!! superwife: What is your new bf's situation? Is he 'one of us'? He may not be able to appreciate what you and your kids are going through at this time. I wouldn't lose too much sleep over it right now, but just keep this instance in the back of your head.
As far as the stbx.... overreacting?? I wouldn't say that. Just (obviously) sensitive to how he is treating your kids, especially when you see how your daughter reacted to it. There is no doubt in my mind that the situation was awkward for him, as well as your daughter, as well as the OW. That doesn't mean he isn't a d*ck tho. Do you talkl to your stbx at all? Maybe just bring it to his attention. This is not about you and him, but your daughter and him. She is a 17 yr old girl, something he can not appreciate (neither can the bf).
Re: So mad at both men!!! flipflopnomore: Yes, new bf is one of "us". The only difference is he has been divorced for 10 years now. He doesn't remember how fresh and how raw the emotions are.
The whole thing has put me in a bad mood and want to run away from men altogether. I am supposed to go out with bf tonight, but right now I have no desire to. I am not mad anymore at him, just kinda bummed about the whole thing with daughter and stbxh.
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