Re: Takes big 'ovaries' for her to ask MelanieW: Tree I think you gave a vbery interesting point of view. It made a lot of sense to me. But after reading what youw rote, I had to ask myself...Melanie could you do that if asked by your ex? Honestly, I would have to say no. I know for me, not speaking for anyone else, that there is a certian point where you are able to live with the pain that was caused. Some people get over it all, while others dont, they just find a way to go on living. I see that as the "baggage" we all bring into ANY relationship, romantic or not.
I find the idea that she would even ask to be insane. The idea of all the pain and hurt of watching my ex in the same neighborhood for 2 years, having a ife wh someone else, the damage that way done to me along the way, no amends having been made.....I think I would feel somewhat vendicated. Just my 2 cents ;)
Takes big 'ovaries' for her to ask My_farm: Been away for a long time, but really needed to vent.
Thanks for listening.
Recap: Divorced almost 2 years.
X-wife decided to f-ck the neighbor and left.
She lives across the street ! but I refuse contact with her.
I went to a great 'divorce recovery' program and a lot of
out of pocket counciling. I am over her, but forced to not forget
because she is a idiot and lives across the street. The neighbor
must also be a idiot.
I truely am over her so I decided to e-mail her that she had received
some tax mail that I left on my gate for her to pick up. I should have burned it, but I am a 'stand up guy'.
The following is what she had the ovaries to e-mail today(after 1 yr of no contact even though she literally lives across the street).
and below it is my reply.
And BTW she got several hundred $K in the divorce.
Thanks for the mail and I do hope you forward any mail you might get that is for me being that it's only right.
I was just getting ready to mail to you an important letter being that I didn't think you'd read any email from me. Since you sent this email I am taking a chance that you might read it. So here is goes. I have been working on opening my own restaurant for the past 8 months. It has been a lot of hard work and I have struggled in ways you would never think, but it is about to happen. I have a small problem ... my folks have not been there for me in the ways they should have and I have already asked of everyone that is my friend ..... I have the bulk of the money I need for the restaurant (mostly a loan, but also a lot of sweat from money earned and help from friends), but things have been bad for me in other areas of my life, even with all the help I've received I still have personal debt that the bank wants me to get rid of. No medical insurance and no one to pay the bills can get you in a world of financial hurt. Got an eye/eyelid infection, and still am having problems with my eyes, but can't afford to see the doc again! When I couldn't work eveything that I own broke or needed to be replaced, so I got really far behind financially. So I am asking you to help me out by giving to me $5,000.00. I know it's a lot of money, but it's not half as much as I originally owed, and you know how bad I want this restaurant - I HAVE WORKED VERY HARD AND SACRIFICED A LOT to make this dream come true (yes, I know there is still a lot of work ahead of me, but this is almost a reality for me and I can't let it slip through my hands over $5,000). Please help me. I only come to you cause you are my last chance, yes, I already got some help from Jack and can't get anymore, and my parents only take not give. Almost everyone I know is helping me in some way, I have no one else I ask. Yes, I am not only asking, I am begging, please help me.
Here is my reply:
Tammy,
I told you I would not read the e-mail.
I did not want to ,but I did.
I could care less that you were seeing other people, but I did not want to have to see it every day.
After you moving in with the neighbor across the street there is no way I am going to do anything for you.
We could have parted as friends, but not with the constant reminder of you being next door f-cking someone else.
I go to work before you every day and work more hours than you do every day. Get a second job or use your feminine wiles on David some more.
I do not want you back, but things could have been different between us had you not moved across the street to f-ck the guy you use to bad mouth.
I am over you, but truely sorry it is like this. You are doing the same thing to him that you did to me when you left #2. This was a real eye opener.
Re: Takes big 'ovaries' for her to ask smokin: no. jessica alba kicks ass.
myfarm, you da man. good job!
Re: Takes big 'ovaries' for her to ask flipflopnomore: don't give it to her. My feelings are hey, they left. They chose this life. They chose not to be a part of ours. That also means when life gets hard, no more running back for help.
My stbxh feels I "owe" him something too. I just say I am sorry life is hard for you now and you live paycheck to paycheck, but hun this was your CHOICE.
Re: Takes big 'ovaries' for her to ask wizer_now: [quote author=My_farm link=topic=40555.msg449197#msg449197 date=1169953928"> Tammy...there is no way I am going to do anything for you.[/quote">
[quote author=My_farm link=topic=40555.msg449197#msg449197 date=1169953928"> Get a second job or use your feminine wiles on David some more.[/quote">
My_farm. You handled the situation well, but I think you could have handled it better, and made your response only one line. The first one (above). The rest of what you wrote (especially the second quote) brings you down to her level. You're better than that now.
[quote author=tree link=topic=40555.msg449342#msg449342 date=1170001751"> Go ahead and gift it to her.
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Tree. Excellent advice. And while you're so quick to spend other people's money, please PM me for my mailing address. I could use $5000 too.
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