am I getting dumped? katbuttkid: This was the end of an email I got from him last night.
I sorta blew over it, and then today, I reopened the letter and re-read this part. And I think "Hmmmm. Interesting."
here it is:
"I'm proud of how hard you work and all you have achieved. It has been so fun to get to know you. makes me wonder where you will go in life!"
I am not sure how to interpret it. Maybe it is just what he says. But lately, there has been a certain undertone that we don't know where we're going with this relationship. I graduate in May and might be moving... if not out of town, then out of state. Last week, I asked him "what am I going to do with you?"
He said "hopefully more of the same."
It's like neither one of us has any hope for us to still be doing what we're doing for any sort of long term.
Re: am I getting dumped? doodlesmore: maybe he does not want to hold you back?
perhaps he knows you have alot to think about as far as your job and where you are going to end up and he does not want you to feel obligated to stick around just because of him.. ???
I can't really say......I don't know anything about your relationship with him....but....I think I would keep things very open if I was not sure how the other person felt about me. He may just care about you enough to not want to hold you back from anything that would help you and be good for your life.
Re: am I getting dumped? wizer_now: I don't know your situation, so I am responding based soley on the words in his message and his "hopefully more of the same" comment.
I take it to mean that he still desires you, respects you, and is waiting for you to make the next move, whether it be towards him, or away from him.
Re: am I getting dumped? katbuttkid: Hey Thanks.
I think you're both right.
The comment he made about "more of the same" was before the email. I think maybe he caught on to the fact that this is on my mind.
Plus, I talk about my plans all the time. All the options I'll have.
To be honest, it is going to be hard to decide what to do next wiht him in my life. Maybe he's feeling that Im' about to dump him... if not this month, then come june.
I really don't know what to do. I like him quite a bit. But he's non-comittal as well, so for me to decide anything based on our relationship would be dumb to do. We're pretty new... well, REALLY new actually. Have known each other less than 2 months, have been dating for about 1. But it's rare for me to feel the way I do about someone, soon or otherwise. I'm usually pretty EU (emotionally unavailable).
There is a great employer down in Salt Lake City that I already am daydreaming about working for. Once I mentioned them to him, he's been pro-SLC. He has friends in Salt Lake and says he gets over there a few times a year for big shows and to ski. He said he can help me find a place to live there through his contacts. He keeps saying he likes Utah, and that I'd have it made in SLC for outdoor stuff. I am having trouble adjusting to the idea of living in a city-- but that is an aside. Anyway, I'm really considering it.
The other real viable alternative for me is Alaska, and he didn't seem to keen on that idea. Hardly mentions it. but salt lake... maybe he's thinking we can still sorta see each other if I move there? That is what I am thinking!
Occassionally as it would be.
No, that would be dumb.
See, I can't have him be ANY part of the decision mix. I have my son and family to consider and my career... that's enough. Put on top of that my lifestyle (climbing, riding etc) and that makes it more hard. Then add on top of that that I don't want to be single all my life....or do I?
I'd love to stay here, but the employers suck, IMO.
I think Doodles is maybe right in that he doesnt' want to hold me back. He's said things to me about him being an old man and me being more "happening". He said he wants to help me in my life. I said "good, I can use all the help I can get."
I have sorta started calling him "daddy" and he likes it! I like it too-- how bizzarre! I mean, in certain circumstances, we like it!
He takes good care of me. He takes good care of everyone. I bet he's a great boss.
Hate to give him up. It makes me feel so good... this caretaking of me. Makes me want to take care of him too, you know?
This is the way it's supposed to work, isn't it?
but yeah, maybe he's not dumping me. But he's thinking about the end. I guess we both are.
I wonder what I should do. I think he's going tot ake my lead.
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Re: am I getting dumped? Magalucia: I understand this relationship is new but can you just talk openly about these feelings? I can't stand guessing games so for me it is simpler to make decisions with as much clear information as I can have. Maybe you guys can just have a real heart to heart about this and both feel better.
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