Re: bad bad day Magalucia: Is there a shelter where you can go? I think I would rather spend 30 days in a shelter while I found a place to live than live in that kind of situation. I am sorry you are going through this and hope you will find some peace soon.
Re: bad bad day wizer_now: [quote author=Magalucia link=topic=40573.msg449434#msg449434 date=1170014323"> Is there a shelter where you can go? I think I would rather spend 30 days in a shelter ...than live in that kind of situation. [/quote">
I think a shelter is a bit extreme. There's no physical violence. Why should she make it so easy for him (and the daughter)?
Re: bad bad day Magalucia: [quote author=wizer_now link=topic=40573.msg449446#msg449446 date=1170015700">
[quote author=Magalucia link=topic=40573.msg449434#msg449434 date=1170014323"> Is there a shelter where you can go? I think I would rather spend 30 days in a shelter ...than live in that kind of situation. [/quote">
I think a shelter is a bit extreme. There's no physical violence. Why should she make it so easy for him (and the daughter)?
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Because he is verbally abusive to her and her children so much so she felt the need to call the police. I would not wait until it became physically violent. I think verbal/emotional abuse is just as serious as physical abuse and in my book it is not about making things easier or harder for him but keeping the kids safe.
Re: bad bad day smokin: wizer,
i believe that she has 2 boys from a previous marriage, and he has a daughter from a previous marriage. thats sure what it seems to me.
if he is getting verbally abusive, to extemes, like he is, see if you can get a protection from harrasment order.
when he starts being verbally abusive, then follows you, still tearing you a new one, then it does look as it can escalate into something bigger. protect your 2 boys and get it done...
good luck.........
Re: bad bad day MelanieW: Thank you for all of the advice.
After yesterday it has been decided that we will BOTH avoid each other at all cost. He knows I will not tolerate feeling as if I am in danger and WILL do something about it. I know I may not be handling all of this right, but I am doing the best I can. Focusing only on work, saving money, and my 2 sons. Those are the things I have in my sites. It hasnt been easy to figure out what to do, as I have always been married and had a husband that wanted me home. Of course NOW my stbxh says the opposite. I really think his main problem is he sees the small steps I am taking to move on with my own life, and he feels the need to knock me back down. Odd thing is, I am noticing that with each knock down, I am getting up faster and faster.
Last night was a dark night for me. The thought that were going on in my head scared me. I finally got on the phone with my sister and just cried and babbled. I fell asleep at about 830, and slept til 1030 this morning. I had no idea how exausted I was after everything that happened yesterday. I feel a little more even, a little more myself.
Wizer ~ it has been hard to let his daughter go, as I have been her only mother for the last 7 years. My stbxh did this exact same thing to his ex, step by step, to a point that he bullied her away from her kids. It hurts to let her go, as I do love her very much. Because I feel so much pain about it, I can trully say how sorry I am that you know how it feels. We take these kids in, seeing and loving them as if they were our own, and then later they are used as pawns to hurt us. My stbxh wont even allow me to talk to his daughter now. He believes every word she said. It is hard to see her doing something she isnt suppose to do, and not want to mother her. I am so sorry you were hurt as well.
