Re: Powdah Room 1/29 sheydp: This has been a huge one for me lately… So I am probably sharing too much here, but it feels kinda good to get it out…
I always said if I was with the right partner, and they wanted one, particularly if they had never had one, I would be willing. I have three already, but if I could afford it and my partner wanted it, I would have dozens (just not from my body – I have always liked the idea of adoption and fostering). I LOVE babies, and pregnancy (even though there have been odd things with mine in the past). Now I am with a partner who is WONDERFUL, and an AMAZING daddy, who loves my three as if they were his own – who even if we broke up I would grant visitation to him… And he has never had kids. I would love to see his eyes in a son or daughter – he has excellent genes, and he has missed so much not having the girls since infancy…
The only part missing is HIM wanting a baby. Oh, and that pesky little marriage thing. I would rather be married if I were going to get pregnant, if only for legal reasons, it just makes it simpler… (Not that I feel there is anything “wrong” with having children unwed – or even on your own!) Oh, and I am now 35. Even if we were to get married now (something he is very opposed to) I would be past prime pregnancy time… and he would have to want to… So… my answer is… no. I don’t want another baby now, because the timing and the mutual desire is not there. The reasons I would want one are for him, and if that isn’t something he wants or needs – there is no reason. Still kinda makes me sad though. Makes me wonder if he would have been better off with someone younger and with less kids so he could have experienced childbirth…
Shey
Re: Powdah Room 1/29 JadedButtafly: I'd love to have another baby :) I'd just have to have one with someone who loves me completely and isn't with me because he thinks I need him to raise our children.
Re: Powdah Room 1/29 superwife: [quote author=sheyd link=topic=40601.msg449821#msg449821 date=1170081560">
Oh, and that pesky little marriage thing. I would rather be married if I were going to get pregnant, if only for legal reasons, it just makes it simpler… (Not that I feel there is anything “wrong” with having children unwed – or even on your own!)
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Oh yeah, I forgot about that little tidbit. Pesky marriage :D. For legal reasons, and for moral reasons I guess (as fars as my kids are concerned, my daughter and anyone else who comes along). I just feel I have to set a good example for my daughter. I do agree that it is not wrong, per se, but I think I would want to be married if it happened. I would never voluntarily do it alone (adopt alone or go to the bank). I don't want it that bad. And I really don't know if I want to get married again. So I am torn with that.
Re: Powdah Room 1/29 darkrose: Maybe. It depends on if she already has kids or not. I think it would be open for discussion, but nothing really set in stone. I think 2 or 3 is enough. :)
Re: Powdah Room 1/29 trapped: [quote author=Smiley link=topic=40601.msg449773#msg449773 date=1170079193">
Today's Question:
Would you want to have a baby (or another baby with those of us with kids)?
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Yes, very much so, but it seems as though I cannot. :-\
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